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    avatarDigs
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    ….THIS is why non-barrier contraception for men, aka the male Pill, is so important.

    #873300 Reply
    avatarKate
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    Right, but I wouldn’t trust most men to take it properly, tbh. Maybe something like a shot or an implant, that a doctor administers or inserts, and we don’t have to depend on “ideal usage.”

    #873301 Reply
    avatarAllornone
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    Besides, they tested a men’s birth control pill. It was dismissed because it caused enough side effects that they felt men wouldn’t take it. Incidentally, they were the same side effects women get with the pill, but hey, whatever.

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    avatarKate
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    That’s right, lol!

    #873304 Reply
    avatarFyodor
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    I think that all of these things kind of circle back to the issue that before having sex without barrier contraception you need to fully trust your partner. Not just that they aren’t being deceptive but that you can rely on them to take their oral contraceptives every day in the way that they are supposed to.

    #873305 Reply
    avatarFyodor
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    I don’t know why this particular scenario makes having a male contraceptive important. If you think that there is a plausible risk that your partner is trying to get intentionally pregnant against your wishes, you should use barrier contraception or even better, break up with them. If you are oblivious this, you wouldn’t know to take the male pill.

    #873307 Reply
    avatarHelen
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    I wouldn’t trust a man to take BCP correctly. I would my husband, but not anyone else. I might get a lot of flack for saying this butttt pulling out has worked for me for 25 years of sexual activity. Of course, it only works if you trust the guy to do it. A recent study showed that pulling out is more effective than previously thought. Still felt like an irresponsible teenager when my OB/gyn asked what I was using for BC. He didn’t react negatively though

    #873308 Reply
    avatarLisforLeslie
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    @Helen – do you have any kids – I mean, have you considered that maybe you guys aren’t lucky but well, less than fertile?

    #873309 Reply
    avatarFyodor
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    I wouldn’t trust myself to pull out. Like I would probably be able to most of the time, but not with the reliability I’d want to prevent pregnancy.

    #873310 Reply
    avatarKate
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    Omg. My mom told me when I was 16 or 17 that she and my dad had been using the withdrawal method since I was born (my brother and I were both products of misuse of barrier methods early in their marriage). She’s like, “it works great!” Like literally this was her advice to me. I do actually think it works pretty well. I’ve never been pregnant but I have no reason to believe I’m not fertile, and I relied on this method throughout my 20s in my first marriage.

    And at other times too. I do have very regular periods even when not on the Pill, and I knew when I was ovulating. I didn’t use any sophisticated method of taking temperature etc., but I was careful.

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    #873314 Reply
    avatarHelen
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    I have 3 kids. All planned. Zero accidental pregnancies

    #873346 Reply
    avatarAnge
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    For anyone with even a slightly wonky cycle I imagine that’s playing with fire.

    Anyway the idea that men can’t be trusted to take pills is pretty funny tbh. They are apparently the only ones suited to rule the world but can’t manage some timed medication, not to mention they’ll happily hand that reponsibility over to us without a second thought. Society is wild.

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