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    Last year myself and my long term girlfriend moved from our home country to work abroad. We both had a great time until recently. Our plan was (and still is) to move back home at some point, however given the carnage of covid we feel it’s not sensible to leave a job during this time.

    I have been offered a new position in a new company, something that I’d like to do. However my girlfriend is really struggling in her role and wants to go home sooner rather than later.

    This leaves me in a dilemma as it feels like a choice between building my career and earning money, or moving home into uncertainty but she will be happy. Which is of course is vital.

    Thank you for reading!

    #962988 Reply

    I would take the job since you two don’t actually have firm plans for when to move and you don’t know what will happen.

    #962989 Reply

    Take the job. Your girlfriend might decide she isn’t homesick anymore, or you can do long distance for a little bit. But don’t move back home with no job offer. Who knows how long it could take to find one

    #962992 Reply

    As someone who lost their job to Covid and struggled for five months before I was able to find a new one, keep the job. Maybe do long distance for a while, but right now, with so many people out of work, employment is precious.

    #962998 Reply

    No way should you move home and pass up a job just to put her in a better mood. No way. She’s responsible for her attitude, and moving home where neither of you has a job seems really ridiculous. Especially since that may not even result in her happiness. No way.

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