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    ele4phant

    I think you are living in a fantasy world if you think that the day your MIL dies your wife will be suddenly be free and be the partner you’ve always wanted.

    Again, that’s literally NEVER been your marriage. She has NEVER put you first. Why would she once your MIL is out of the way? She will find some other reason to put you last.

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    Northern Star

    What will actually happen is: Your wife will fall apart with her mother, and you will not know how to deal with it.

    And she will then divorce you.

    And you will realize how many decades you wasted being unhappy and angry.

    You are dreaming if you think this ends with MIL dead and your wife happily and suddenly spending all her time with you and your kids.

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    Mike

    I love history. It’s a short trip to see the palace of Versailles-Chantiers, Notre Dame and museums. Wife hates that stuff and kids find it boring.

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    Mike

    Her sister divorced her good husband and he got remarried. My sister in-law is a miserable unhappy bitch. My wife is damn afraid of that happening to her.

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    Mike

    I love 35mm film photography and going to load up at least five rolls of ektar using my Nikon F3. Digital isn’t for me.

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    ele4phant

    Well then call her on it. If she’s afraid of that, of being divorced and alone, tell her you guys need to improve your marriage or you’re out.

    You cannot convince me your marriage is happy now. You keep trying to blame your mother in law, but she literally has no ability to connect with reality anymore. This is 100% about you and your wife creating this situation.

    Sounds like you have all the leverage you need to get her to step up to the plate and be a better wife.

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    Kate

    All right Mike, enjoy your trip. Best of luck.

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    Northern Star

    You know, if I had a wife who was terrified of divorce, and yet she disregarded all of my needs and also wasn’t present for my kids… I might, you know… THREATEN DIVORCE.

    Grow some balls, man. Geez.

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    PDX816

    How are you not exhausted ALL THE TIME? I am exhausted just reading all of this…..over two days. Leave or stay but for the love of jebuz stop playing the victim. All your comments make me wonder how much of this comes across to your wife and kids, because if you’re as nasty to her as your comments are then it’s not really a mystery of WHY she chooses to not be around. Side note, if your kids were your everything you’d be giving them a better example.

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    Kate

    That’s why I closed it, I was sick of listening to him and his thought patterns were disturbing. Not sure how it opened again.

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    Kate

    Plus he’s absolutely adoring the attention, and that’s kind of gross in the context here.

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    CET

    I’m glad you are going. Do it before it’s too late. Your wife can leave. She can hire a caretaker. She just won’t do it for all her various reasons. Don’t stop living your life. But keep talking to your wife. Keep telling her you want her to come too. Tell her you want her to join you. Tell her yes, she CAN hire a caretaker…that she can’t put her whole life on hold for the next 20 years. She needs to live! And you do too. I don’t know how you can get through to your wife…maybe try marriage counseling together and perhaps the therapist can help her see that living her life, her marriage, and you, her husband are all still important. She has given up too much of herself and she is losing you.

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