- March 25, 2019 at 11:53 am #838752
After living in the west (not Midwest) for almost a decade, I do appreciate the direct approach favored in the east. My people.March 25, 2019 at 11:53 am #838753
That is true. But I don’t think I’m the only one. To be direct Jenny and other commenters I’ve noticed and also Kate.
@kate I don’t think you’d work as hard as you do to research and provide the advice you do if you didn’t want to help people because you don’t like it when people are suffering.
March 25, 2019 at 12:17 pm #838755
- This reply was modified 1 month, 4 weeks ago by keyblade.
Right, but I’m not sensitive in the way Wendy and Dinoceros are referring to. I don’t take things personally / assume they’re directed at me. I have a thick skin. I can handle criticism. I understand that other people are more sensitive, but I can’t adjust my whole approach to cater to that, except maybe in certain work situations.March 25, 2019 at 12:45 pm #838756
I understand and sometimes I do personalize comments and do my fair share of critiquing. My advice and comments can be as much for my own personal entertainment as they are for people writing their own reactions and thoughts. I think more people might comment if they didn’t think their comments were going to get karate chopped for being off-key. That isn’t a personal criticism. On the whole I find the comments on this site entertaining to read even and maybe because they can be a little colorful at times.March 25, 2019 at 12:49 pm #838757
Okay, great.March 27, 2019 at 11:03 am #838988
Man I’ve been around since The Frisky days and I never knew about the secret facebook group or any of the gator girl drama. I think this stuff often happens while I’m working the night shift and so I’m asleep during the day and by the time I wake up, all the drama-llamas have gotten deleted.
Oh well. I like this site, and I think both Wendy and most of the commenters do a good job of giving no-nonsense advice but also sensing when a little more compassion is needed by a LW or poster.March 27, 2019 at 11:53 am #838998
I think my “criticism” of Kate was pretty mild, though, and that we had a pretty respectful dialogue. Kate, I think it’s pretty evident you’re not super sensitive and I knew that when making my comment. I happen to think you’re a great moderator (I envy your memory) and also wish you were a little nicer sometimes. But I do think you add value to this site, so since I didn’t say that before, let me make that clear now. I also bought Drybar’s Triple Sec because you recommended it, so there you go.
I’m from upstate NY and we’re probably somewhere in between what people typically think of as “East Coast” attitudes and Midwest attitudes. I’ve lived on the West Coast before and I think East Coast people aren’t necessarily rude, just maybe don’t value small talk as much. I dread making small talk with strangers/acquaintances but I’m still nice to people.March 27, 2019 at 12:02 pm #839001
I’m plenty nice, Jenny. Again, your opinion is valid, but I think I’m nice enough.
And I mean, great that you like that product, but I don’t really see the equation between that and your writing a post specifically to criticize me.
March 27, 2019 at 12:12 pm #839008
- This reply was modified 1 month, 3 weeks ago by Kate.
My intent wasn’t to criticize you. You’re a very prominent member of this site, and you have an official role as a moderator. It felt like it was fair game for me to state my opinion.March 27, 2019 at 12:16 pm #839009
Mmm, but your initial opinion didn’t include anything positive.March 27, 2019 at 12:18 pm #839010
Yes, you’re right – I should have been more thoughtful with that comment.March 27, 2019 at 12:31 pm #839016
My personal opinion is that Kate gives straight forward, clear, well-considered, sound advice. I don’t see it as being mean. Sometimes people need to hear what they need to know. It doesn’t help them to not say what needs to be said. I can’t think of a time she was rude.