Uncle or father? I don't want him to be her dad. I need advice.

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    Lucidity
    December 26, 2018 at 1:51 pm #813210

    You already got great advice when you posted the other two times. Go back and read it. Stop wanting a little girl to be responsible for “saving” a grown man’s life FFS.

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    December 26, 2018 at 2:06 pm #813213

    What a fucking surprise. It took you this long to come to the conclusion that he’s never going to be a good dad?!

    Stop pressuring him. Leave it alone. If you need to meddle in something to feel alive, help him get to therapy where he can work through his addiction, anger and abuse issues. Other than that, stay out of it.

    You’ve already done enough.

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    Fyodor
    December 26, 2018 at 2:30 pm #813223

    Completely shocked by this turn of events.

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    December 26, 2018 at 3:20 pm #813228

    As everyone has said the best way to help your granddaughter is to tell your son to calm down. Tell him to go through the courts if he wants to see his “daughter,” they will require another dna test. There’s no reason to force another one at this time. Tell him he needs to look into anger management/therapy/etc if he wants to have any positive interactions with his niece/daughter.

    Most of all though. Leave this poor woman and child alone. She’s realizing he’s unstable. You still refuse to have any relationship with this child. Just leave them alone. The courts will handle your living son. With his history it’s doubtful even if he was the father that they’d grant him any custody rights.

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    blanchedubois3613
    December 26, 2018 at 4:39 pm #813249

    I just snorted coffee out of my nose.

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    December 26, 2018 at 4:47 pm #813250

    If you truly do want to help your family, the very best thing you can do is get yourself into therapy, so you can find some peace and perspective.

    Because the way you’re going about things now is going to make life harder for everyone. Your grandchild, your grandchild’s mother, your surviving son, and you.

    You’re using this situation with your grandchild as a way to either hide from your grief or try to fix it, I don’t know which. And you can’t. It won’t work. It won’t bring your deceased son back, and it won’t make your surviving son into a good man. And it won’t help you stop hurting.

    Please. Step away from this situation and get some help.

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    December 26, 2018 at 4:55 pm #813252

    T H E R A P Y……asap. No one here can help you.

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    ron
    December 26, 2018 at 4:58 pm #813253

    Yeah, LW is sick. First, she foists her even sicker son onto this poor woman and her child. Now she steals this woman’s identity to write in to this site.

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    Bittergaymark
    December 26, 2018 at 11:32 pm #813270

    Okay, I just got out my Ouiji board and the dead brother is pretty damn sure that the baby is NOT his as he and the mother only did anal. Whoops. Wait. Now he’s asking if one can possibly get pregnant that way…
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    Hold on. Replying to him now.
    “N…O….”
    Wow. Damn. He is so not having it.
    “A…R…E…..Y…O…U…….S…U…R…E…?”

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    Hannah
    December 27, 2018 at 2:32 am #813280

    I don’t have words for how sick I feel just reading your comment. Please don’t mention my dead son in such a degrading way.

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    December 27, 2018 at 4:45 am #813282

    Have you told your son that he has to get his life in order before he can think about meeting this girl? Are you afraid that if you tell him that he will explode in anger?

    You need to protect this girl. You owe her that much even if you haven’t met her. She deserves protection. A paternity test won’t protect her. You need to keep your son away from her. You need to push your son to get therapy. If necessary you may need to ask the mother of the girl to get a restraining order against your son.

    Your son is not a legal father and may only be the uncle. Your son has no rights to this child and will only have rights if he goes to court to get them. I doubt he has the money to do that and you definitely shouldn’t provide any money to do that.

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    JD
    December 27, 2018 at 8:53 am #813303

    How is it degrading to say your son had anal sex? People do it all the time. Dead or alive. You really should catch on that you are ridiculous and need to butt out of this, and that you aren’t going to garner our sympathy.

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