What can I do when your loved one’s dad is dying?
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So, I met my girlfriend a year ago and actually started dating one and a half months ago, we are pretty much close. The thing is we study together in a foreign country and 10 days ago she returned home for a month as her dad was ill and he was at hospital. His father has diabetes. Doctors couldn’t figure out what was the reason of his current health condition. Today her dad got seriously ill and unconscious, so he is using ventilator to breathe. In other words he is “dying”. I’ve never met him, but my girlfriend always talked a lot about her family, especially about his dad. I adored his dad and was looking forward to meet him next Summer. I feel very sorry for her dad is being seriously ill. And now I do not know what to do, and what to say to my girlfriend. It is even harder when she is far from me. We rarely chat with each other on telegram as we are being busy and the time difference is 5 hours. It is not about our relationship, the issue is how can i support her?
I mean, you’re in a new relationship and there’s not much you can do from a distance. You two haven’t been through anything hard yet as a couple, and you don’t know her all that well or what she needs when she’s going through bad stuff. That’s okay, give yourself a break, you only just started dating. The answer is really just to be there for her. If she texts you, text her back. Tell her you’re thinking of her. Ask her how she is. Send a card. Don’t lay your own problems on her right now. When she gets back, try to be receptive to how she’s acting and how she probably feels. Go with it. Don’t judge her. You kind of just have to roll through it. She might not be okay for quite some time. She might have more bad days than good days. You’re not going to be able to fix this and make it okay. You just have to kind of be there with her through it.
If you barely talk right now, I’m not sure how you can support her. Send her flowers. And don’t expect much in return right now.
