What do I suffer from?
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I don’t remember your past posts and don’t intend to find them. But it sounds like you divorced, felt depressed, got on meds, and started dating — which you found fun until the novelty wore off — all in fairly quick succession. There’s a saying: “Wherever you go, there you are.” Dating is not a solution to your problems, nor is it a replacement for therapy. If you don’t take the time to address your issues, they’re going to continue to be there. You can distract yourself with a new relationship and a million hobbies, but those are all temporary fixes.
So yes, you should speak to a therapist. SO many responses on this site end with, “And perhaps consider speaking with a therapist,” because it’s a useful tool to deal with acute issues, processing the past, or even understanding ourselves better. Whatever is going on with you definitely seems to be of a magnitude that goes beyond the scope of an online forum.
Hi,
This is just a little update. In fact I’m just coming out of a tough month. I realized my financial situation was worse than I thought when someone on this thread said it was “alarming”. So thank you for that.
I put all my unpaid bills on the table and started to calculate a budget to get into financial sanity. I asked my sisters and her husbands help. He works as financial analyst so he analyzed everything, income/outcome, unpaids etc… We established a plan/buget on one year to get it all good and to pay my debts. My sister will help me by checking on me each month when time comes to pay the bills, I asked he to do that until I get 100% comfortable to do it myself.
See, you said that only my therapist could help me, but its not true because she never pronounced the word Alarming that gave me the declic. I’m glad I posted on this forum, and started to took my life under control again. I’m not done yet, but I’m feeling way better… Hope you are all good!!
A therapist isn’t going to tell you that your financial situation is alarming because they’re not there to judge you or tell you what to do.
Your unpaid bills were just one of many issues you cited with your life, so it’s likely you’d still want to find a therapist to help you with the rest, but I’m glad you’re taking steps to get your life under control and are feeling optimistic. Good luck.
