The ways women wonder why men do the things they do!

Because he wants to. Because you fucked him twice and he likes the attention and idea of you being on the side waiting for him. He’s probably doing it for his ego boost and to keep you potentially warm to another hookup when he is drunk, away with you on business or not feeling so guilty.

Why are you examining his actions and not your own? Why wonder why he is involved with a woman so much younger? There’s so many infinite and common explanations that boil down to because straight men, no matter how old they are like attention from women, some especially like younger, naive, docile young women. Why are you involved with a married man so much older? You play a part in the choices you make and the things you do, too.

He’s cheated on his wife, continues to do so and is using you for attention and sex. He’s not a good guy. Stop being his “friend” and take this as a lesson to not get involved with unavailable men. Especially unavailable, married men at work. Date available guys outside of work.

“Or is he just trying to keep me warm incase he changes his mind?”

I can’t say for sure but this is pretty likely.

*covenant

Okay, I’m about to go on a theological tangent, so I apologise. I would also add the disclaimer that I am not a fundamentalist against divorce in all circumstances. To name A FEW examples: a woman/man who is being abused (in any form) by their spouse has the right to divorce, a spouse who has had their partner step outside the relationship has the right to divorce, and if a partner was severely dishonest about things before the marriage taking place has a right to divorce.

Now to answer the question about what God (capital G 😀 ) has to do with it.

Marriage, by its nature, is between the two participating individuals (regardless of sexual orientation or gender) and God. One cannot divorce God from it. A priest/minister (although desirable) is not necessary for a marriage to take place; Adam and Eve were alone in the garden. The act of marriage involves two people (whether male and male, female and female, female and male, or whatever other combination) who God has created in Their Image coming together (not to imply that God necessary created one perfect person for each of us, that is a dangerous rabbit hole) as one flesh. God created them knowing that they would join together as one flesh, and by so doing is an intrinsic part of the relationship; for, without him, the relationship would not exist.