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Me and my partner been trying to get my family’s approval for marriage for 2 years. We are very aligned and suitable in lifestyle and personal compatibility. He is my best friend and we have big plans, in terms of how we want to live our life and raise a family, build a legacy. I’m 27 and have been in relationships before that led to unfulfilment and disappointment. So I’m not naive and I’m very self aware of my own flaws but also of what I want for myself. I am calculated and always think things through before I commit to something.
My family do not approve of him due to his background and family, though they do claim it is not personal towards him. My mum says her gut feeling tells her he is not for me. My dad has given me a long list of everything that could go wrong. I feel like everyone is against us and I’ve been trying to win them over, I don’t want to feel like I’m choosing between my happiness and my family. But I’m getting tired, I don’t know what to do anymore? I don’t want to give up, but it’s starting to feel impossible.
There’s so much context and detail I am missing out in this message but I would love to hear what an outsider may think? When do you know it’s time to give up?Dear WendyKeymaster
What does your parents’ approval mean for you? What happens if you marry someone they don’t approve of? I’m guessing you and I come from different cultures, but pre-marriage, when I thought of my parents not approving of someone I was dating, I’d be disappointed but would ultimately think of it as their issue to deal with not mine. I wouldn’t about them cutting me out of their lives but maybe this is a concern for you?AnonymousseGuest
Do you need their approval, or want it? Will they cut you off if you marry him? I’m so sorry your parents are so disrespectful of your future happiness.