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    Cheri Plaza

    Hello,

    I’m just gonna dive right in. My kitten and I have never really been close and she stopped parenting me all together at 11. We reconnected and she broke up with her boyfriend of 10 years who molested me. Shorty after, had to have been less than a year, she reconnected with a friend from high school. Less than 3 months from then they hit married! Then, in about another 3 months he passed away from liver failure as he was an alcoholic. It’s traffic I get it, but I feel she had to of known. I have very little putty but I’m always respectful and hear her out. The thing is it’s been a year and I’m getting married to my boyfriend of 7 years. We have a 1 year old and she’s supposed to watch his at the wedding but all she’s talked about is how to avails making her sad and how I can play certain songs. I really just want to uninvite her or tell her to suck it up. I know these are bad options, so tell me what should I do? She called me this morning telling she might have to be airlifted off the boat we’re getting married on because of anxiety!!!! I now don’t trust her to watch my son and am canceling my honeymoon.

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    Cheri Plaza

    Auto correct!!! My mother not kitten 😆

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    JD

    Ha. Sitting here wondering what typo kitten could have been. hahahahah Wondering why are you so obsessed with your kitten???

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    LisforLeslie

    Whoa – I think you had a lot of auto-corrects but let me see if I get the gist:

    Your mom was a pretty lousy parent. You’ve recently reconnected. You’re getting married soon. You have a 1 year old. Your mom is telling you in many different ways that you can’t count on her to watch your son during or after the marriage during the honeymoon.

    Listen to her. Of course you want your mom to be a good parent and do all the things that she should do as a loving grandparent. But she’s deficient. She’s not a good parent. I do not recommend you leave your son alone with her ever. She sounds impulsive and lacks common sense.

    Do you or your bf have other family – what about his parents? Siblings? If not,then hire a babysitter for the day. Don’t worry about the honeymoon – the honeymoon is for the couple to get to know each other and get pregnant. You already did that. Take a family vacation later.

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    Skyblossom
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    Or make the honeymoon into a family vacation.

    Don’t trust your mom with your son. You know from your own experience she isn’t trustworthy. Assume you can do better on your own and take care of your son.

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    Skyblossom
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    I have to say I was doing a Google search for kitten and couldn’t make sense of it even with the urban dictionary and even with the BDSM meaning of the term. Glad to hear it was an auto correct problem.

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    Cheri Plaza

    Thanks for the advise. I reread after posting and noticed all the typos. I wish it would let me go back in and edit! I should add she is a preschool teacher and my son loves her. It’s just this whole wedding thing making her crazy! But your right, I don’t trust her right now and her actions are telling me that indirectly.

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    Kate
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    If you make an account and log in, you can edit it. Or I can go in and fix your typos if you want.

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    Dear Wendy
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    anonymousse
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    Good god, this woman is a preschool teacher.

    Can I ask how and why she is back in your life? You forgave her? When did this all happen? Have you worked through this with her?

    I envy the depth of your capacity to forgive…but she sounds very, very manipulative.

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