For the record, my husband goes back to his parent’s house by himself probably once or twice a year. He just flew home for the weekend about a month ago. Why does he go by himself? They live about 8-9 hours away by car or one quick flight, and we have two little kids. For holidays and whatnot, we all go, but it gets expensive or exhausting for us all to go always. I have never once begrudged him a trip home, and in fact I encourage him to go. Sometimes it is nice to just spend time with your family by yourself, I get it. I went with just my mother on a trip to London this year, and it was great. I would go crazy in a marriage like this – one where we couldn’t do things independently of each other. I also couldn’t put up with screaming or name calling either. It sounds like your problems run much deeper than what appears on the surface.