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    Guest
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    Someone said “you are the light. This place need you. You are the light” in a sincere tone. I think I know the transparent meaning of the quoted but what exactly does it means? Am I in a wrong place? How bad is this place? Should I get out?

    Thanks for the advice!

    #1070162 Reply
    Naive
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    One of my coworker walked up to me with another coworkers and expressed his mad feeling about if he knew someone hurts me, he will hurt that someone bad (he said repeatedly). (On a side note I never say anything to him or to any coworkers when or if someone honked at me or hurt me. Today someone scraped the back of my head with an object by accident and that person never even apologize but kept walking away. Again I never say anything to anyone. So I don’t know how he found out. This is the second time he found out someone hurt me.) So I asked why would he said that. He said in a loud voice “because I like you”. A little shocked. I didn’t know what to say to him but stood there. I admit okay when it comes to connecting with another human(s) I am so disconnected and have no sensor radar what so ever. My head was processing as “ok, he is a very caring and super nice coworker/man. And that he likes me as a coworker because he is a good man who thinks I am a nice person so he wanted to look out for me at work”. A while back he said to me not to copy bad attitudes/behaviors from our coworkers. I took that as a nice coworker just warned me to stir clear of another coworkers. Is my head telling me the truth??? My gut is telling me something else.

    So please lay out your smart and experienced insights. Thank you all in advance!

    #1070185 Reply
    anonymousse
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    What’s your gut telling you? Mine is saying he’s a controlling weirdo. Avoid him. Tell HR maybe. He sounds dangerous, not nice. This is not normal or a sign that he’s good and likes you.

    #1070197 Reply
    Kate
    Keymaster

    Trust your gut. This is weird and creepy workplace behavior. He’s paying undue attention to you, threatening to hurt others, and giving you unsolicited advice. Steer clear of him, and definitely don’t see him alone.

    #1070201 Reply
    Kate
    Keymaster

    I don’t know who said the first quote you posted on this thread, but context matters. It could be harmless and nice or creepy and inappropriate, depending on context.

    #1070250 Reply
    Guest
    Guest

    The quote was said by an employee who was exiting the company. I didn’t get a chance to ask that person for detail because I was interrupted to go help another.

    #1070270 Reply
    Kate
    Keymaster

    Still could be fine, or not, depending on the person.

    #1070273 Reply
    Kate
    Keymaster

    But yeah, seems to be saying it’s not a great place but you make it better.

    #1070279 Reply
    Bittergaymark
    Guest

    None of these off coworker statements sound very grounded in reality. You work with strange people. And react even more strangely to things they say. Why are you taking any of this so seriously?

    How old are you?

    #1071517 Reply
    LisforLeslie
    Guest

    I’m getting serious stalker vibes here. He knows that someone bumped into you and either he saw it and didn’t come over in the moment, or he heard about it from someone else OR he is watching you. I don’t know – something really sounds off about his reaction. He’s not your protector or defender. Why does he believe he is or needs to be.

    His advice about bad behaviors – that’s not bad advice. A bad attitude at work is rarely going to be productive or well received. But some of it seems weirdly paternal.

    I say go with your gut and keep him at arms length.

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