It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Assessing The Risk” who was unsure whether or not to respect her husband’s wishes that she not take her 6-year-old child on vacation to Florida amid the coronavirus outbreak. Her update below.
My husband’s primary concern is that we would get sick and/or stuck there. My husband was worried about it everywhere, but the travel had extra elements (airports, airplanes with recycled air, more folks at the theme parks) that seem to increase the risk. We both work in places where people travel a lot, and we live in a city, so from my earlier perspective we were getting exposed sooner than later, and I generally think the infrastructure is going to be fine in the short-term.
With that said, I appreciated your advice tremendously, especially this: “You can make a decision based on information provided to you and on your own wisdom, and you can take ownership of that decision. Rather than cancelling the trip to appease your husband, you would decide to cancel the trip only if YOU felt it was the best decision.”
I thought about it (and called both the pediatrician and my doctor last week, both of whom said to go, which is kind of funny) and ended up taking a deep breath and just … letting it go. We’ll go some other time, and I’ll spend some one-on-one time with my kiddo at home this week.
I think that’s a wise decision and I’m glad you all feel comfortable with it!
Indeed, the situation around COVID-19 is changing rapidly. My own family vacation is about five weeks away and it’s looking more and more like a decision about whether or not we should go might be made for us. (I would not be surprised if major cities, like NYC, go on “lockdown” at some point and if some air travel is suspended for all non-essential business.) At any rate, I am keeping a close eye on the news and CDC recommendations. For anyone else who has upcoming travel plans you are feeling unsure about now, these tips may be helpful for you. Stay safe, everyone!
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.
Follow along on Facebook, and Instagram.