It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Cut Out Dad?” (LW2) who wrote in last week about her deadbeat dad and whether she was right to cut him out of her and her baby’s lives. “I love my dad, but I cannot stand the fact that he won’t take his balls out of his wife’s purse and stand up for his children. My sister and brother are depressed that they are being told that my dad doesn’t love them anymore and that he hopes they are happy with themselves.” Update below.
My siblings live with my mom full-time, and my dad doesn’t care as he hasn’t tried to contact my mom at all. The attorney general advised my mom to not send them over anymore. My stepfather asked if he could adopt me, and I am thinking about taking him up on that.
It must be really painful to be dismissed by your father like you have been, but at least you have confirmation that cutting him out is the right choice. I’m so glad you and your siblings have your mother and what sounds like a father-figure who wants you to feel supported and loved and cared for.
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.