Updates: “Cold Feet Bride” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Cold Feet Bride” whose letter appeared in a shortcuts column last July. Her wedding was a month away and she was having serious second thoughts. She didn’t like that he always walked two steps ahead of her and she didn’t like how attached he was to his overbearing family. I told her to postpone or cancel the wedding. Keep reading to see whether she took my advice.

I DID take your advice. You told me that I was young and was having way too many problems with him to walk into a marriage. I stepped back a week before the wedding, and it was the best decision I ever made. I later found out they (he and his family) were plotting to get me to live with all of them, including my crazy sister-in-law and her four children, in one small house. I am glad I took your advice. I would not want to be with a man who was still under the rule of his parents – despite his age. Thanks again! You’re great.

Sounds like you dodged a bullet!


If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at wendy@dearwendy.com with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.

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  1. YAY! Sounds like a happy ending for you!

    1. Avatar photo Addie Pray says:

      Very wise. 🙂
      Wait, I think I am mixing lurkers. One of youz guyz said you wanted me to say “very wise” except now I’m thinking I got the wrong commenter and actually now I think I got the wrong comment too. Something like “very wise.” Oh forget it. WTGS in any event. Mondays are hard.

      1. HAHA!! You remembered! I believe it was “you are amazingly insightful and wise thatgirl”…but I’ll take this too!

      2. Avatar photo Addie Pray says:

        oh good i wasn’t losing my mind!

  2. Avatar photo GatorGirl says:

    Yikes, good thing you didn’t listen to me!

  3. Great job, LW!! I’m sure it was super hard calling it off, but it was 100% the right thing to do.

    1. I can’t even imagine how hard it would be to end a relationship so close to the wedding! It can be hard enough without that kind of pressure!

      That said, good for you, LW! You did what was right for you in a position where I think many people have gone ahead with the wedding for all the wrong reasons. I’m glad you seem happy with the choice, too!

  4. My first reaction to this update was, “Say, what?!”

    Dodged a bullet indeed!

  5. All I can say is – whew!

  6. trixy minx says:

    Nice to hear about a LW that actually listened to advice.

  7. Plotting to make you move in with his whole family? That’s the story I want to hear more about! Glad you got out of that one!

  8. *Applause” It takes a lot of courage to call off a wedding, especially so close to the date. Kudos to you.

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