Updates: “Concerned Sister” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Concerned Sister” who wished her sister would leave her abusive, alcoholic husband. It’s been nine months — keep reading to see if the sister is still with him.

I wrote to you a long time ago about my sister’s marriage and I have a really good update to share with everyone. I went down to visit her for a few days and it was the best family time I’ve had in my entire life. My brother-in-law has really cleaned up his act as a father, husband, and professional. I guess something had to wake him up. After the death of his father, he realized that this is his one chance to raise his kids and so he decided to go to counseling. He apologized to my sister for what a jerk he was and is now treating her well. He also found a great new job in IT and cut his drinking way back. My sister is treading cautiously, but she is optimistic about the future of their little family. The kids are very happy and well adjusted, just the smartest and most responsible children I’ve ever had the pleasure of hanging out with. Naturally, I’m hesitant to trust him, but I know that, if things get worse again, she will call me to talk about it. For now, I’m just glad to see her and the kids happy, and I hope it lasts forever.

What a nice update! Here’s hoping things continue to work out with your sister and her marriage.


If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at wendy@dearwendy.com with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.

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  1. iseeshiny says:

    Whoo! That’s great news LW!

  2. A nice Xmas present of an update!

  3. Avatar photo rosie posie says:

    This is an excellent update! I completely understand the LW & sister’s cautiousness. I hope everything turns out well for them.

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