It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Due Date Conflict” who was unhappy that her husband wanted to go to a destination bachelor party two weeks before she was due with their first baby. “I don’t want to be alone knowing the baby could come at any moment, but I also don’t want to take this opportunity away from my husband. But the fact that he wants to go on this trip really hurts.” Update below!
Congrats on the baby! Sounds like you have a wonderfully supportive husband. And don’t feel bad about his missing the bachelor party. I’m sure he would have worried being away from you, and there’s no guarantee that the anxiety you would have felt being alone two weeks before your due date wouldn’t have brought on an even earlier labor. Enjoy this sweet time with your family!
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at [email protected] with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.
dinoceros May 10, 2016, 4:46 pm
Glad it worked out, and congratulations! No need to feel bad that he missed the trip. It’s like feeling guilty that you spent money on health insurance even though you didn’t go to the doctor. Some things have to be done “just in case.”
Monkeysmommy May 10, 2016, 7:03 pm
Your husband made the right call! And it sounds like he didn’t give you any shit about it, and is being a great husband and father. All is well that ends well.
Portia May 10, 2016, 8:55 pm
Aww, this is a great update! It sounds like you have a great, supportive husband. Congrats on your little one!
Adrienne May 11, 2016, 7:34 am
Congratulations! My husband has a group of friends where we are the first to have a child (friends are 28~34ish). I think my husband feels the peer pressure sometimes too because they don’t understand why he isn’t it all night on the weekends or why he can’t just pop out and watch the game with them (because his wife has a life, and isn’t a 24/7 babysitter). It’s awesome that your husband’s had already started out by supporting you when you ask for it!
Bittergaymark May 12, 2016, 11:41 am
Thank God He cancelled that trip! 😉