Updates: “Fed Up With Narcissistic Groom” Responds

updatesIt’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Fed Up With Narcissistic Groom” who refused to pay for her daughter’s wedding to a man who insulted the amount she was able to contribute to said wedding: “Once they were engaged (July 2013), I presented them with a symbolic check (made out to “T…..’s Wedding”) for $5,000, which indicated the total amount which I would be contributing. He looked at the check and laughed, ‘Ha, I could save that much in a year, what with my bonuses.’ […] A few days later he called me up screaming and yelling at me, calling me, “Cheap, cheap, cheap!!!” (for only providing $5,000). […] I am thinking of putting double the original amount aside for a divorce fund as I suspect, if it ends, it won’t be pretty and she will be penniless.”

Below, find out if the LW was right about the prediction she made three years ago.

I’d like to thank everyone who responded. Some really great advice!
The wedding ended up being postponed as they moved 2,000 miles away for his new job opportunity. Two years ago I got a crying phone call from my daughter asking me to fly out and drive back across the country with her. I ran over to my next door neighbor’s house and we did a little jig and then she drove me to the airport. My daughter was an emotional basket case and lost 20 lbs the first two weeks she was back home. She refused to look at another man for an entire year! But, here is the good news, ladies – she met a wonderful guy while hiking with friends from work and they have been happily together ever since.
So, I write this to thank those of you whose advice was helpful to me and to give hope to other mothers and to young girls who think they may never love again.

Yay – congrats on dodging a terrible son-in-law. Best wishes to your daughter on her new relationship and new lease on life.


If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at wendy@dearwendy.com with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.

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  1. That’s an awesome update, I’m so glad she got away from that dickhead.

  2. Heatherly says:

    That’s a good outcome. Wish LW and his happy daughter all best for the future without that man.

  3. Oh sweet Jesus, I’m so happy and relieved to read that. All of it. That she didn’t get married to that asshole, that you are such a great mom to her, that she has now found a wonderful guy. Good luck.

  4. My favorite part was you and your neighbor doing a little jig!! 🙂

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