Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Updates: “Feeling like a Wh***” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Feeling like a Whore,” who only got affection from her boyfriend in bed, making her feel like a, well, you know. After the jump, find out whether he’s finally showing his love outside the bedroom or if our fair LW got wise and MOA’d.

I know I wrote to you a few months ago about breaking up with my boyfriend and with the advice I knew it was the right thing to do but sometimes the heart says different so we got back together and it was the BEST thing ever because I finally realized what a douche he is. So we had not seen each other in a few months it was like he was avoiding me and I kept making excuses to all my friends and during this time he went everywhere except here because he was too busy. I finally told him I was not happy and he emailed me telling me I was a selfish ass who did not understand that he has other things going on and I should be more understanding, even though I have not seen him in a few months and with no verbal or physical affection I should be okay with that? What am I — a door mat? It was like a weight lifted off of me and it is the best feeling to truly know that I am okay and really deserve better. He is the ass and missed out on the best relationship ever!

Well, good for you for moving on from a situation that made you unhappy.

If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.

7 comments… add one
  • BoomChakaLaka May 24, 2011, 12:48 pm

    Good for you for getting out of that. On to better things!

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  • spaceboy761 May 24, 2011, 12:57 pm

    Win or lose, best LW name to date!

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    • SGMcG May 24, 2011, 1:36 pm

      Let’s hope LW finds someone who can make her cry after sex for the RIGHT reasons now.

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      • spaceboy761 May 24, 2011, 1:48 pm

        Ah, yes. Laughter, bang tears, boobsex… this thread had it all.

        [stares wistfully into distance]

  • LTC039 May 24, 2011, 1:07 pm

    Are you sure you weren’t dating my ex??? Sounds oddly familiar!!
    I’m SO glad you’ve moved on! Sometimes it takes a few slap in the faces to realize the reality of the situation. Its ok that you took him back, we’ve all done it. You needed that as closure. Be happy you’re free & clear of him!
    Awesome update!

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  • LeahW. May 25, 2011, 9:37 am

    That first sentence had the best twist ending ever! Sometimes, I think as women we want to be understanding and forgiving, so we stick with people we’re unsure of until we’ve gathered enough evidence to prove without a doubt that they’re not worth our time. Sure, it can lead to extra pain and wasted time, but sometimes it’s nice to know without a shadow of a doubt that we’ve made the right decision by leaving.

    There are guys out there that will seek out your company! It’s not worth giving up the freedom of being single for anything less!

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  • Natasha May 25, 2011, 10:32 am

    Wow, that was so awesome to read. I am so glad that he took it so far, that way you knew without a doubt that you were doing the right thing. God, he sounds like such a dickhead.

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