It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Married to Someone Else’s Baby Daddy” whose husband cheated on her shortly before they were married and got a woman pregnant. She married him anyway, thinking she could handle the situation, but her feelings changed as the due date approached and the situation intensified. (The other woman slashed the husband’s tires after he told her he was engaged to be married, and then said the baby wasn’t even his before changing her mind again and saying it was).
The LW wrote: “I don’t want that baby in my life. I told my husband that, if that is his child, I want a divorce, and he told me that he would give up his rights to see the baby if it would make me stay.” Keep reading to see what has happened since the baby’s birth.
It turns out that my husband cheated through our entire engagement. I found out by the mother of the child that he was practically living with her while I was in basic training, and everything he told me was a lie. I decided to stay with him (silly me) but later on he told he wanted to “make a family with her.” He was very cold and, from then on, all I have gotten are threats and harassment from him and his family.
I now realize what a low-life he is. He had his daughter last month while he was in another country. I left our house before he got back. Now that he is back he has been staying with her, of course. He is starting to file for divorce and, though it irritates me that I threw so much away for a dirtbag, I am excited to have my divorce decree in hand and to get rid of his last name. He left me with nothing and I had given up everything I had, including my scholarships, military career and family, but I am slowly getting back on my feet.
Oh, wow. Not the happiest of updates, but I’m happy for you that you are getting away from this man and moving on. Best of luck to you moving forward and rebuilding your life.
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.