It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear first from “Maybe Baby Daddy” (second letter) whose ex-girlfriend told him she was pregnant with a baby girl and the baby was his. He wanted advice for how to tell his new girlfriend of four months. Some commenters argued that, based on the timeline he gave, the baby couldn’t be his. His update, plus two others, below.
I don’t understand why some women think lying about being pregnant will help them get a guy back. Don’t they realize it’s a lie that will be debunked fairly quickly?
Now we hear from “Feeling Defeated” (second letter) whose boyfriend wanted her to quit the job she loved as a nanny to take a corporate job so she could make more money and financially contribute more to their household expenses before he agreed to marry her. “I told him that I would be willing to take on all the chores, cooking, and cleaning and give him as much as I could financially, but he says that we’ll always be struggling.” Her update:
Good for you!
Finally, remember the couple (first letter here) who was invited to an expensive dinner ($150 per person) that they weren’t sure would be paid for by the wealthy hosts or not? She sent a quick update, writing:
That’s a good reminder that if you decide to plan a party, be clear in the invitation whether you are simply organizing (and everyone will be responsible for contributing to the bill, which you should also be clear about in regards to an approximate amount) or whether you are truly hosting and will be picking up the tab. A few scripts for different scenarios:
“Please join us for dinner in celebrating so-and-so’s birthday. Since we expect a large group, please plan to bring cash if you can to make paying the bill a little easier.”
Or: “Please join us for dinner (on us) to celebrate so-and-so’s birthday.”
Or: “Please join us at Restaurant to celebrate so-and-so’s birthday. Appetizers and first round on me.”
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at [email protected] with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.
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