It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Maybe One Day Mom” who was undecided about wanting kids while her boyfriend of two years was sure he didn’t want them. She worried about committing to someone who would essentially limit her choices in the future. Keep reading to see how things have been resolved.
You answered my letter some time ago and I thought I would share an update on my situation. After reading your advice, as well as the advice of commenters, I realized that I didn’t know what I wanted for my future and what I wanted out of a partner enough to make a decision. So I took some time and really focused on figuring out what was important to me. After much soul-searching I realized that I do in fact want children and a husband who shares my faith, and knowing exactly what I want is incredibly empowering. It made the decision to end my relationship with my boyfriend. Sad, but simple. He is moving out, and, upon discovery that during my time of figuring things out he went looking on Craigslist for hook ups, it made moving on and getting over him incredibly easy. Thank you for all of your advice and to everyone who commented!
Oh, dear. Well, that was a bullet dodged then, wasn’t it? Best of luck to you!
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at [email protected] with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.