It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “New to this Mom” who was upset that new boyfriend was uncomfortable changing her daughter’s diaper and requesting payment for baby-sitting while she was at work. “I don’t know why, but that kind of put me off a bit. I don’t know if he is setting respectful boundaries and I am the one not used to it, or if it’s something I need to discuss with him and, if I do, how do I approach it.” Her update below:
So, long story short: good advice!
Ok, great, but I hope it’s not your boyfriend’s totally reasonable boundary-setting that earned him the “man-child” descriptor and that you realize, going forward, that it’s probably inappropriate to ask someone to babysit your child on the regular — for free! — when he/she hasn’t offered to do so. And that goes for a friend, family member, or someone you’re dating.
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at [email protected] with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.