It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “No Visiting Hours,” the woman who wasn’t allowed to visit her boyfriend after he was diagnosed with cancer and moved in with his mother an hour away. Keep reading to see how things are going now, several months later.
I read many of the comments on that post and was blown away by some of the responses. My boyfriend and I were and still are very serious; ring on my finger or not, we are. The first few months of his chemo treatments were terrifying and hard as we adjusted to a new routine. His mother and I agreed to disagree. By his third round, he was feeling good enough on his detox weeks to be able to come stay the weekend with me, and this has been our schedule since. I adore his mother and all she has done for him, but she still refuses to allow me in their home even with planning and she disagrees with his visiting me. No matter her opinion on me, it has no effect on the love I feel for him. And it never will. If it means I get to have him by my side for the rest of my life, then I’ll deal with it. The good news is that radiation is over and successful, and in three months he will undergo his last chemo treatment. After that he will be living with me, and hopefully the rest after that will be good news as well.
That’s wonderful news on a positive prognosis! Please keep us posted after he finishes treatment. I wish both him and you all the best.
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.