It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Non-Christian” who wondered if she should stop dating Christian men because it turned out, after six months of dating, that her ex (a pastor’s son) had qualms about having a long-term relationship with a non-Christian and he hadn’t been upfront about it from the beginning. I don’t want to discount all Christians because of this one experience,” she wrote, “but it was very painful for me when we broke up and I’d rather not repeat that experience again due to the same reason of religious differences.” Find out if she’s still dating Christian men or not in her update below (plus a bonus update from another LW).
Happy holidays to everyone!
Thank you for your update and happy holidays to you, too!
And now a bonus update from “Hung Up on Him” who was dating a guy who always hung up on her as soon as he “finished” during phone sex. Her update:
Well, considering that you were also LW2 in this column, where you wrote in about the guy who ghosted you for months, got back in touch, and then dropped a bombshell that he had a secret (fourth) child you didn’t know about, I’m gonna suggest you take a break from dating. In six months’ time you have dated three big losers who treat you like shit. You break this cycle by taking a break from dating, getting some therapy, and sorting your shit out. There is no “accident” about your finding assholes. You ARE looking for them, at least subconsciously, and at this point only a good therapist is going to help you figure out why and how to STOP looking for them.
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.