It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Not Invited” who was angry that her husband, whom she was mending a 14-year marriage with, was planning to attend his niece’s wedding despite the LW not being invited. “His niece is getting married to a man she hardly knows and I’m not invited since the mother of the bride does not like me for no reason except she doesn’t want her brother with me. He and I have been married for fourteen years, and I think it is wrong that my spouse goes to the ceremony. He says he isn’t going to the reception, but I don’t believe him.” Keep reading to see if her husband did go to the wedding without her…
I also wanted to let you know that the marriage only lasted three months and the bride became pregnant and has not yet told the groom and the baby is due this September. Signed, Not Invited.
You don’t know how you feel about the deception and dishonesty? It sounds like you DO know how you feel. And you should tell your husband. And if you aren’t already doing so, try some marriage counseling if you’re genuinely serious about mending this marriage, because right now it sounds like you still have some major themes to work through.
Also, who cares whether his niece married a man she hardly knew and is already broken up with (and pregnant by)? How does that affect you? You’re still married to a man who goes to weddings you aren’t invited to until the last minute and then lies about it, so I’m not sure you have the most stable place of superiority to stand and judge other people’s decisions and relationships.
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at [email protected] with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.
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