Updates: “Preferred Being a Third Wheel” Responds

updatesIt’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Preferred Being a Third Wheel” (LW2) the 17-year-old whose sister’s ex-boyfriend pressured her into hanging out and who made her uncomfortable by telling her she was his only friend. “I know he really needs a friend,” she wrote, “but I am not sure what to do that would be best for both of us, and I could really use some advice.” Her update below.

I was going through my old emails and came across our exchanges. I realized I hadn’t updated you since getting your advice!

Thanks to your advice and the advice left in the comments, I worked up enough courage to send Alex a text letting him know I would be taking a step a back. I then did as you recommended and blocked his number/blocked him on social media. I haven’t heard from him since and I am very happy to not have him in my life anymore.

Thank you again for your help! Your advice was the push I needed to finally end the relationship. I still keep your words in my back pocket as I make new relationships, and they have certainly come in handy. You’re the best!

Congrats on learning an important lesson about setting boundaries. No one is entitled to your attention – least of all some creepy, manipulative guy your sister dated for a minute.


If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at [email protected] with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.


  1. Great job setting boundaries young LW! This update makes me glad.

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