Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Updates: “Ready for More” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Ready for More,” a 28-year-old woman who had yet to do anything more physically intimate with her boyfriend of six months than kiss. She wrote: “I would really like to move in the direction of sex, but I’m not sure how to proceed. I’m not lacking in sexual experience, but I’ve never had to make the first move. I’m 99.9% sure that he’s a virgin, and I don’t want to freak him out, but at the same time, we’re adults in a loving relationship and sex shouldn’t be a difficult topic of discussion.” After the jump, find out whether they finally did the deed…

Your readers gave me all sorts of advice ranging from talking to him, to getting him drunk and giving him a surprise bj. I greatly appreciate all the help, and I’m happy to report that I talked to him shortly after my letter was posted, but I did it in the heat of the moment, and a few days later we happily did the deed. His reasoning for not bringing up sex was a fear that I would think he was with me for the wrong reasons. He takes being a gentleman very seriously. I am now a firm believer in waiting several months before sleeping with someone. In six months we established a beautiful, loving, awesome relationship. We were so close, and so in love that when we added sex to the mix it was unbelievable. We’re still going strong as a couple, having good sex, and planning for our future together.

Mazel Tov!

If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.

16 comments… add one
  • silver_dragon_girl November 28, 2011, 11:48 am

    Well, yay! 🙂

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  • TheOtherMe November 28, 2011, 12:09 pm

    Very happy for you !!

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    Jess of November 28, 2011, 12:24 pm

    awh!!! congrats!

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  • mf November 28, 2011, 12:33 pm

    Aaaaaw!! This guy sounds like a keeper!

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  • TECH November 28, 2011, 12:46 pm

    He sounds like a special, thoughtful person. So glad you got a happy ending!

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    • Jiggs November 29, 2011, 10:48 am

      I see what you did there.

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  • CottonTheCuteDog November 28, 2011, 1:31 pm

    Wow – feels like that letter was written last week! Time sure flys!

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  • McLovin November 28, 2011, 1:35 pm

    Good for both of you! High five each other for me, both before and after.

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  • Ladybug November 28, 2011, 2:02 pm

    Does this guy have a clone you could introduce me to? (jk, sort of)

    Seriously, I’m so glad this worked out well for you both. Good updates improve Mondays.

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  • Anna November 28, 2011, 8:40 pm

    He takes being a gentleman very seriously…is your boyfriend’s name Edward? 😉

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  • the other guy November 28, 2011, 11:06 pm

    I knew the BJ would do the trick, fixes almost any problem and also great for helping women lose weight…

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    • plasticepoxy November 29, 2011, 10:35 am

      I don’t get this comment. Can someone clue me in?

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      • the other guy November 30, 2011, 11:25 pm

        in the original post there were suggestions of surprising the BF with a BJ

  • Letter Writer November 29, 2011, 12:14 pm

    I’m the girl who wrote this update and original letter… and I’m proudly writing this comment with an engagement ring on my finger! The wonderful boyfriend has turned into a wonderful fiance 🙂

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  • Eljay November 29, 2011, 1:31 pm

    Holy Cow! What an awesome update! Congrats, LW!

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  • AndreaMarie November 29, 2011, 8:41 pm

    best update…congrats on your engagement!

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