It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Reformed Asshole,” the man going through a divorce who wondered if he should apologize to a woman he slept with sixteen years ago and then never called back. Keep reading to see whether he reached out to her or not.
Anyway, I have been in therapy, but I didn’t want to talk to my therapist about this, as I have bigger fish to fry. I’d also like to give a special thanks to “Starfire.” I took her advice as well. I didn’t give a monetary donation, but twice a week I’ve been volunteering at a Phoenix battered women’s shelter. One night I work with some of the kids at the shelter and the other I help out their finance dept. Working with the kids leaves me exhausted, but I feel like I’m helping, which is extremely gratifying. I still have work to do on myself, but I’m getting there.
Thanks, again. — Working on it
Sounds like you are committed to working through your issues in healthy ways, which is wonderful. Best of luck as you continue to self-reflect, process your divorce, and move to the next chapter of your life!
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.