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It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Rx Blues,” who was alarmed after discovering by accident that her boyfriend of seven years was taking an anti-depressant. She worried he’d been prescribed Paxil because he was unhappy with her and that he withheld the information from her because he knew she’d disapprove. She wondered if she should just pretend she didn’t know anything. After the jump, find out whether that’s what she decided to to.
We talked about everything a few days ago, and we’re both happier that we can talk about it honestly. His doctor prescribed it to treat his chest pains after trying a few other treatments/drugs for it, thinking that they might be caused by anxiety. He didn’t realize what it was at first (it’s a generic form, not brand name Paxil), and his doctor neglected to mention what it actually was. He was worried that I would judge him for trying it, which is what I had assumed he had thought. The chest pains have seriously lightened up, which is amazing, since he’s been dealing with that for a few months. He’s nervous about the side effects, but we’re both really happy that he’s feeling better. I have also taken to heart what several commenters have already pointed out regarding psychiatric medications, and I realize now that my rants about big pharma could seriously hurt people that I care about who might be taking these drugs. Thank you (and all of your commenters!) for your advice. I appreciate it!
Thanks for the update, and good luck to you both!
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at [email protected] with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.