It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “What Would Wendy Do?“, the woman who handed $100 to a close friend only to later be led to believe the money was spent on an addiction and she likely would not be re-paid.
“Becky promised to pay me back in two weeks, but it has been a month and two weeks now and I have still not been paid back. I think she could have paid me back by now but hasn’t because she is wrapped up in a substance web: either directly owing for it, borrowing from Peter to pay Paul, or just using whatever funds she can get to acquire more. At the same time, that money will not make or break me, and our friendship is worth more than $100. She hasn’t reached out though, and I don’t know where to go from here.”
While I have not seen Becky in person since the loan, I have not cut her out of my life. We text back and forth about memories, kids, or funny memes. We connect over social media. If she says anything about the loan, which she hasn’t in a while, I just say ok. I probably won’t steer away from her either when an occasion that we usually all meet up for arises. However, until Becky can be truthful about her problem and work to fix it, I am going to have to hold our friendship at arm’s length and not so close to the heart for now. Wish us all luck!
P.S. You are pretty awesome, Wendy! Keep it up. =)
I think this is the best path for everyone involved – good luck, and thanks for the update and kind words!
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at [email protected] with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.