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    January 16, 2024 at 7:17 pm #1127737

    Thanks for the Tik Tok name, Copa!

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    January 16, 2024 at 4:27 pm #1127732

    Copa, who was the Tik tok gal who mentioned Dear Wendy? A couple weeks ago, there were two or three old columns that I posted on FB over the course of ten days or so that really riled ppl up. I haven’t had so many people call me terrible things since like 2014 before the first mass exodus of DW commenters. I wonder if the Tik Tok gal chose one of those columns (I’m betting yes).

    It’s funny, because I pick a few old columns every day to edit and get ready to post on Fb (and posting there once a day gets me thousands and thousands of views here, so it’s worth my time!). Sometimes the advice I gave ten years ago is so different than what I would say now. I usually will re-write my advice to better reflect the wisdom I’ve gained and how the culture has changed, but sometimes there are still some columns, even after I edit, that don’t pass the vibe check, I guess, especially with Gen Z. 🥴

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    January 15, 2024 at 9:31 am #1127635

    Happy belated, KTFran!

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    January 13, 2024 at 8:48 am #1127592

    Hi, everyone! I’ve been absent this week because of a medical emergency I wrote about here, if you missed it:
    https://dearwendy.com/weekend-open-thread/

    Hope everyone who has been sick is feeling better. There is SO MUCH going around right now. The ER we went to was just absolutely jam-packed with sick people (and nowhere near enough space/gurney/beds/chairs for everyone). I feel like if more people saw what’s going on in hospitals right now, maybe offices and schools and such wouldn’t be so cavalier about illness and would support people staying home and resting when they are sick. Relatedly, I have been hearing more sirens in my part of Brooklyn than I have since 2020.

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    January 6, 2024 at 1:07 pm #1127516

    From the LW:


    Thank you, thank you thank you

    Things had gotten even worse since I’d been home so I’m grateful that everyone has been so unanimous in the advice

    My own family have been very much like – trying to make excuses /give him benefit of the doubt – which has really made me feel a bit unsupported and tbh is probably big part of why I ignore red flags myself so much – but this whole episode has made me feel like, well basically what everyone else has said

    Unfortunately are living together, and as it is my house I need to somehow make him leave – I’m not sure how to do this but I might give the family violence division at the local police a call. Obviously not trying to press charges over anything (no crime been committed) but hopefully they can help me.

    Thank you very much. ”

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    January 6, 2024 at 9:36 am #1127515

    Jumping in here quickly to underscore what has already been said. LW, you need to get out of this relationship. The danger signs are very clear, so please heed them and the advice here.

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    January 2, 2024 at 7:19 pm #1127411

    So glad you’re beginning to feel a little better, Leslie! Covid can be so scary for those who get very sick. I’m glad you’re on the mend.

    Copa your 2024 ins and ours sound great. I’ve shifted my thinking of a new year beginning in September around my bday and Jewish new year, but I do have a couple new themes for 2024. I’m interested in cultivating my psychic abilities and manifestation powers and healing energy. To that end, I just signed up for a reiki training workshop later this month. I’m also going to take a transcendental meditation course, and next week I’m going to talk with a psychic medium and nytimes bestselling author about tapping into our psychic abilities.

    Beyond that, I plan to keep walking tons, strength training, and spending less time on social media/ my phone.

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    December 6, 2023 at 4:08 pm #1126979

    It looks like this set is just about sold-out so it probably won’t work for any of you looking for gift ideas, but for future reference, I bought this set for Joanie (8) during the thanksgiving week sales (it was half off) and it’s her favorite thing right now. She wears a uniform at school and then changes into this when she gets home like it’s her “at-home uniform.” I could see girls up to mid-teens loving this:

    https://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=825139022&rrec=true&mlink=5050%2C12413545%2CPDP_gapproduct1_rr_1&clink=12413545&vid=1#pdp-page-content

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    December 6, 2023 at 4:00 pm #1126978

    For a 10-year-old girl, maybe a jewelry-making kit (like friendship bracelets)? Baking supplies for 12-14 is also a great idea. Calendars are always good if you have an idea what theme they might be into. Cute earrings if they have pierced ears and you have an idea what their tastes are. Maybe headphones, portable speakers… These ages are so hard to shop for!

    One thing Jackson, who is 12, has enjoyed getting from my parents for the past few years is an animal “adoption.” He’s “adopted” an endangered troop of mango monkeys, a giraffe, and for the past two years, an orphaned elephant. My parents buy a year-long foster/adoption in Jackson’s name, he gets an adoption certificate, and then quarterly emails with updates and photos and a bday message on his bday. He’s an animal lover and really enjoys this gift.

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    December 5, 2023 at 9:06 pm #1126960

    I have a 12-year-old and he is thrilled with $100 cash gift, which he sometimes gets from his grandparents (aunts and uncles spend less – closer to $50). I’ll try o get a crisp hundred dollar bill if we do a cash gift and that always goes over well.

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    December 3, 2023 at 7:45 am #1126912

    Yeah, I’m not sure what you’re asking here. It sounds like this isn’t a friendship you value anyway, so who cares if you’ve lost the friend. You say you lost respect for her, think she’s very entitled, that she plays the victim, and is pretty manipulative. So… good riddance then, I guess?

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    December 3, 2023 at 7:40 am #1126911

    You could have 20+ years left of life. What would you like those 20 years to look like? You already have an idea – based on the past 50 years, and definitely the past 10 – what life with your husband will look like. At this point, I’m not sure you’d even need to divorce him to live separate lives. It sounds like you already do this. As for it being unlikely that you could find another sexual partner just because you’re 76, don’t sell yourself short. That’s 50 years of your husband’s influence talking. It might help to work out some of this with a therapist.

    You still have time to create a live you want to live.

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