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Sarah, you never shared your prediction on whom the republicans will nominate. Trump? Cruz? mr. Potato head?
Blue Kate, I quarter two large russet potatoes, boil for 30 to 40 minutes, mash with a fork and masher, add about a teaspoon of salt, about 1/2 cup of milk and a tablespoon of butter or margarine, mash another minute, serves two adults and one kid or two adults with a little leftover for lunch the next day.
Just catching up on this after getting dinner ready for my family (meatloaf, cheddar broccoli, and mashed potatoes), getting the baby bathed and to bed and getting jackson to sleep, and then cleaning up (also, jackson is on school break this week, so I had both kids all day, so sorry, Anon, for reposting the “How Did You Know You Found the One” thread — I’ll have to give you a refund on what you pay to read this site). This was way better than the last half of this week’s Bachelor I was going to watch. Thanks, Sarah b!
For the record, I was 29 when I met Drew (through a friend) and he was 36. He was just about the oldest guy I’d gone out with and the difference between him and the guys I’d dated who were just a few years younger was remarkable. He says he had been ready for a serious relationship for a while, but I think the years of dating unsuccessfully before he met me helped him appreciate what we found in each other pretty quickly. Like, he knew what was out there already. He knew I was a good catch and a good match for him. And he didn’t want to lose out, so he didn’t fuck around. I’m not sure he would have had that same … tenacity if he didn’t have like, 10 solid years of dating under his belt.
I’m not sure that’s exactly true though, Dre. Maybe it’s true of the average single 30-year-old man or the average 30-year-old man who is active on dating sites. But there is also a demographic of 30-year-old men who have been married/committed for a few years. Obviously, that pool of men isn’t going to be on dating sites looking for a match. So, yeah, when doing online dating, I’d say (hetero) women who are 27+ and looking for serious relationships should be focusing their search on 32+ (and add a year for every year you are older than 27, so if you’re 31, you target minimum age is about 36). I mean, this shouldn’t come as a shock that for a lot of men (and women!), online dating is simply an easy way to browse for casual hookups. The older you target your search, the more like you are to broaden the pool of potential matches who are looking for something more serious (and who are more mature themselves).
The video game thing is weird, but it was his immature/unsophisticated way of driving home the message that he wasn’t interested in you. I’m willing to be that after you brought to his attention that it was Valentine’s Day — which he clearly wasn’t aware of/ hadn’t thought about (because it’s rarely on the radar of single guys like it’s on the radar of single women) — he was a little worried that you thought that this was a Valentine’s Day Date and that there was more weight than just a casual first date where you’re seeing if there’s a spark. I think he probably felt pretty quickly that there wasn’t a spark and then wanted to make sure you didn’t think there was one. Well, mission accomplished, right?
Dating guys five to ten years older than this guy, whom you say is 30, won’t eliminate this kind of insensitive and immature behavior completely, but it would reduce it considerably, I think.
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