If you want to be perpetually unfulfilled in this relationship, keep seeing him. If you want to eventually be totally heartbroken when he meets someone he actually wants to be in a relationship with, keep seeing him.

If you want literally anything else, move on. It’s never going to get any better than it is currently with him.

Yeah my dude. Women are judgemental and paranoid of men, but it’s out of necessity.

Women on dating apps are subject to a constant stream of duds. They range from guys whose conversation skills are limited to the word “hey” to unsolicited dick picks to straight up stalkers. Women have to have their guards up out of necessity.

My best advice for a man seeking out women on a dating app is to be patient. When you initiate conversation, do so specifically. You can’t just say “what’s up” and expect that to be enough. Find someone you have a mutual interest with and start a genuine conversation.

An online message of “sup” is the equivalent of hoping to make a connection with a stranger while shopping. Don’t hold your breath.

Don’t be hurt if you don’t get a response immediately. Remember women are likely sifting through dozens of messages on a daily basis.

Don’t take it personally if you don’t get a response at all.

He’s using his depression as a weapon to try to manipulate you into a relationship.

Don’t let him hide behind his autism. He knows what he’s doing.

Break off contact as much as you are able, and be thankful you never did actually start dating him.

Don’t feel bad. You’ve done him a favor by teaching a valuable lesson about love-bombing and moving too fast. If you acquiesce to his depression-temper-tantrum, you will just teach him that it’s an effective strategy, and he will continue doing it. The absolute best thing you can do for him is to not date him and not talk to him.

Yup – this is beyond the help you can get from an advice column or message board.

Speaking as a recovering co-dependent myself, I will say you are severely co-dependent. You are so desperate for this guy’s approval that your life revolves around it. And he seems to be offering you nothing but misery.

You don’t have to live like this. Find therapy and get this guy out of your life. Build a life of your own that doesn’t require approval from anyone else.

I agree with the “don’t tell about the cheating” sentiment, with the caveat that if there’s a real risk of him having been exposed to STDs, then you need to tell him.

If you don’t think that’s likely, rip the band-aid off quickly and permanently if you don’t want to be with him.

I will add: On the odd chance you love him and want to be with him, but are punishing yourself for cheating on him, there’s potential to move on from this with enough honesty. But this doesn’t seem to be the case here.

It’s not clear how long you’ve been dating this guy, but considering your age it can’t be that long.

He treated you in a way that is totally unacceptable. Imagine if he talked this way to a co-worker or a supervisor. He would be fired. Why is it ok to talk to you this way but not his peers?

Unless there are some extreme extenuating circumstances and this is really uncharacteristic of him (for example, did a parent die recently and he’s under a great deal of stress and not his best self), break up with him.