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October 16, 2018 at 3:49 pm in reply to: Cultural appropriation #805107
I think it’s less about the extensions tho.
I don’t particularly think that white women look good with a ton of small braids in their hair. Big & chunky braids, yes! Y’all have that on lock but cornrows and dreadlocks, eh not so much. I think it’s a hair texture thing tho.
Most white women can’t maintain cornrows/dreads over any extended period because those kind of styles are more favorable for kinky and coil-y hair. Even my bi-racial kid with wavy/curly hair can’t rock cornrows or dreads because her hair isn’t the right texture for it.October 16, 2018 at 3:30 pm in reply to: Cultural appropriation #805101
NW. Google Bo Derek braids. That shit is cultural appropriation.October 16, 2018 at 3:23 pm in reply to: Cultural appropriation #805099
I don’t think the technique really matters. I think it’s the overall finished product that pushes it into cultural appropriation.October 16, 2018 at 3:19 pm in reply to: Cultural appropriation #805097
NVM. I googled it.
I don’t think that dutch braids are cultural appropriation. TBH, they look like the standard braid that white people tend to use in their hair to keep it out of their face.
I think cultural appropriation of braids is creating a whole head full of braids based on African/African American styles then rebranding it as some new thing (Kylie Jenner and Bo Derek, I’m looking at y’all).October 16, 2018 at 3:14 pm in reply to: Cultural appropriation #805096
What are Dutch braids?September 21, 2018 at 1:18 pm in reply to: Why has he ghosted me? #798501
He’s not going to say anything because she’s NOT going to show him the text conversations. Lol. Deep down, she knows she’s wrong but she doesn’t want to admit it because that would that mean her ‘happy marriage’ is not as happy as she’s trying to pretend it is.
In life, I’ve learned that so many people have a gigantic disconnect between their perception of their life and the reality of their life. LW is one of these people.August 9, 2018 at 2:15 pm in reply to: My obese husband wants a divorce b/c I don't "love" his body. #786049
I want your life. 🙂August 8, 2018 at 5:31 pm in reply to: My obese husband wants a divorce b/c I don't "love" his body. #785555
This went on till my 40’s. The first year he gained around 60 pounds. Then the drinking and the verbal nonsense started. I never was making enough money even when I was making more than he was. And it got worse from there. His guessable weight got up to 450. It’s guessable because they have to use a special scale at that weight. This was someone that did not care how unhappy I was and was not even trying to make things better.
For real, Oracle doesn’t even hate all fat people, she’s still angry at the fat ex who treated her terribly. That’s the issue. In her mind, she let that fat fuck verbally and mentally abuse her. Who does he think he is? He didn’t deserve her in the first place. And to top it off, he lost all of the weight when they ended the relationship. If he had done that when they were married that would have proved he loved her. *smh*
You’ve got a lot of anger tied up into the weight of your ex. I mean this in the nicest way possible, please go get some therapy so that you can release that anger. For some reason, you have equated obesity with ‘he’s a shitbag’. That’s not the case at all, there are a bunch of dudes with healthy BMI’s who are pieces of shit too.August 7, 2018 at 9:09 am in reply to: My obese husband wants a divorce b/c I don't "love" his body. #784925
If you think he is telling her his true weight, well what can I say. He is not going to have the girls standing in line for him, whether you think that is fair or not.
And this is a shitty thing to think, much less say. Weight does not determine if you get to be in a relationship.
There are a lot of dudes who have amazing physiques and are ‘in-shape’ who can’t find a relationship. And there are plenty of ‘fat’ dudes who have all kinds of women.August 7, 2018 at 9:00 am in reply to: My obese husband wants a divorce b/c I don't "love" his body. #784921
Fyodor, can you please point out to me where I said that.
That’s all you have been saying. in. every.single.post. in this discussion. We’re just saying to you that some women like big men, and that is their preference. Just like some women like guys who are thin, tall, or have abs. Everyone is entitled to like what they like.
The LW has been disingenuous the entire time she’s been in this relationship. At the moment, she realized that she was not OK with his weight she should have moved on from the relationship. She didn’t. She kept telling herself that she would be OK with his weight because he ‘had a handsome face’. She was not, and that is evidenced by the lack of sex in their marriage.
We are saying that she needs to end the marriage so that they both can find someone they want to be with.August 6, 2018 at 4:20 pm in reply to: My obese husband wants a divorce b/c I don't "love" his body. #784577
His weight is a problem.
Ooh, Oracle please don’t come for the big guys. Some of us like our men a little beefy. 🙂 Um, his weight is a problem for her and maybe for you but that’s not a universal preference for all women.
Yeah, 350 is a bit much for a 5’11 frame but 250? 260?, not so much. Also, there’s a huge difference between a 250 lb dude who’s active and a 250 lb dude who’s a couch potato. On of the sexiest dudes that I know is about 275? but he’s hella active. He’s just a big dude (also there are a ton of professional athletes that are upwards of 250 lbs).
She needs to own her part in the demise of her marriage. She liked his personality and thought she would be OK with his weight but she’s not. The sooner she owns that ish, they can both move on to better relationships.June 11, 2018 at 10:59 am in reply to: Men and Their Compliments #756807
Oh, she is looking for the unicorn that Ron described. Lol.
LW, if you ever find the secret unicorn land where sex-charged macho guys who think that their latest sexual conquest is their soulmate, let us know please.