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We went to my boyfriend’s friend’s surprise 40th bday party over the weekend and saw friends we hadn’t seen in person since November 2019 and it was SO GOOD TO SEE THEM. Two weekends ago, we went out on a double date with my friend and her boyfriend and was so excited to be out that I didn’t want the party to end, drank too much, and felt crappy the next day at a baby shower. Anyway, now I’m thinking I might just be getting old because I drank mindfully at the birthday party but still didn’t feel right yesterday.
I’m quietly hoping to not have to go back to the office until fall/when it gets a little cooler out so that I won’t have to deal with my summer work wardrobe, which I had planned to overhaul last year but for obvious reasons did not. And with any luck won’t really have to deal with it this summer. I have way more fall/winter work clothes that I like and that I assume still fit.
I didn’t shop a ton during COVID, but last summer did buy some deeply discounted tops from LOFT, which isn’t my favorite store, but the prices were great and I have a few items from there that I do really like. Anyway, just about everything I bought has lost it’s shape even though I follow the care instructions. Like a normal t-shirt now looks like a crop top.
I couldn’t get through all of this but don’t need to in order to tell you to mind your own business!!! My goodness.
On the bright side, this is my first summer (as an independent adult living on her own) with central air. I’ve otherwise gotten by with fans and, in some apartments, inefficient window/wall units.
@shakeourtree I’ve read good reviews of A&E curvy mom jeans. Haven’t tried them myself but probably will order some eventually. And Abercrombie.
And yeah, Chicago has been HOT already. Most years it’s basically not even consistently warm until this point in June, but this year we’ve already seen a handful of 90+ degree days. Last year, I believe we set a record for days in the 90s and above and I bet we’ll break that this year at the rate we’re going. I like summer, but I HATE high heat/humidity. I wore a maxi skirt to an outdoor brunch a few weekends ago and was dying.
Ha, so I’ve actually noticed that some of the style influencers or whatever that I follow on social media, who are probably around my age, are shopping at Abercrombie again! And American Eagle. These stores were cool when I was in high school and I think may be coming back around. When I was a college freshman and sophomore, I wore this one denim mini skirt basically every time I went out to parties and I keep seeing similar skirts in storefronts. Mine was from Hollister and I loved it.
And the weight thing… I’ll catch myself getting hung up on my weight when I actually don’t think it’s the best indicator of progress (for me). I’m more concerned with how things fit, how I look, and how I feel, but will hop on the scale occasionally to see where I’m at. I should probably take measurements, tbh, but I don’t. For a long time, I was at the same weight I was at in my mid-20s but I was a dress size smaller thanks to strength training.
I also have a butt and I think this makes my ratios “off” for what most retailers sell. I constantly have issues with pants that fit at the waist, but will be too tight in the butt/thighs… or pants that fit the butt/thighs and are gaping at the waist. It’s super frustrating so I will keep the brands you recommended in mind since I’ve been looking for 1-2 new pairs. I’m willing to splurge if it means a good fit. I finally found a pair of cutoff denim shorts that fit appropriately this spring after looking for several years.
As an aside, I’d gained some weight during COVID and have been trying to improve the habits that I let slide to bring my weight back down. I don’t weigh myself too often, but have noticed physical changes that aren’t weight-related. I am feeling pretty good about it and more confident in my appearance again, which has been nice.
If anyone is in the market for a new sunscreen, I jumped on the Supergoop bandwagon and I really like it. I’ve been noticing that my go-to sunscreens weren’t great for my dry skin. When we went to Utah in April, for instance, I noticed that my skin (especially on my face) was basically flaking off anytime I reapplied and then I’d be dealing with little clumps of dried skin mixed with sunscreen and not really knowing if I’d applied thoroughly. Anyway. I like their Glowscreen for under make-up (the Unseen Sunscreen is also great for this, has the texture of a primer and probably the better option for anyone who doesn’t have dry skin) and even my boyfriend noticed their everyday full body sunscreen (Play) had a nicer, easier application.
My company just announced our first indoor event (an annual December conference). Subject to change if need be, but the way they’re phrasing it feels more certain/confident and therefore like a concrete step toward normalcy. We’re hoping to have an outdoor event in September to bring people together face-to-face. I’m starting to think fall will really be our return to the office, but every time I’ve speculated about returning, I’m wrong.June 12, 2021 at 12:53 pm in reply to: I’m 21, and considering dating an 18-year-old… is the age gap too large? #1090607
It does sound like you’ve already built this up in your head a bit too much and prematurely filled in the blanks before even going on a single date.
In college, a friend and I had mutual crushes on each other. He ended up transferring to another school across the country after we’d become close. He came to visit the next summer and I think we both kinda knew things were going to get physical. They did. The emotional and mutual attraction was there, but the physical chemistry was surprisingly not. If we’d lived in the same place, any relationship between us would’ve probably run its course quickly.
All this to say, you can’t know that this guy is the only one who will make you happy or that everything will go as planned if you do start dating. So, I agree with everyone saying you should just start with some dates. Try to lose the tunnel vision and just see how things go.
Yeah, I’m told my office had Mad Men vibes until like 10 years ago. The ED I actually generally like but he makes weird jokes(???) and comments about clothes/appearance. I’ve heard it directed toward other women in the office as well. At first I kinda laughed it off when it was about me but eventually just started giving him a bored stare as a response. Haven’t had to deal with it in awhile but I know he’s paying attention to attire. But anyway. I’m sure I’m the only one who thought about my leggings past the moment it happened.June 11, 2021 at 9:14 am in reply to: I’m 21, and considering dating an 18-year-old… is the age gap too large? #1090565
I don’t think the age gap is too much, but if you’re this hesitant about it, maybe it’s not right for you. It wasn’t uncommon at all when I was in HS or college for someone to be dating someone who was a couple years older or younger. When I was 19, I dated a 22-year-old. At 21, I dated a 19-year-old. Both relationships were brief and the age gap had nothing to do with why we didn’t work out. The thing that I think could potentially make it weird isn’t age, but life stage — one of you is in HS, the other is in college.