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Yeah there’s a place near me that a former neighbor used to take her dog to before she moved to a new area of the city. Her dog was smaller and not super friendly, and did fine there. My dog’s neighborhood dog friend, One-Eyed Sylvia, also goes there.
@TheLadyE I had no idea what my dog would grow up to look like, but I’m a little sad he grew over the 25lb threshold to travel with him on planes. I also can’t realistically carry him a lot of places. When I road trip back to my parents’ place in a different state, I probably seem like a trainwreck at gas stations because I have to leave him in the car, and I don’t like doing that. I don’t really worry about him being stole in the middle of nowhere Indiana (that’s only my concern in the city proper), and more because cars heat up and cool down quickly.Also related to dogs and dating, BG spent the night at my place for the first time on Friday. We came home pretty wasted (oops!) from a wedding reception/after party. He was surprised when the dog jumped right in bed with us. I forgot that might be kind of weird for someone who doesn’t own a dog, but he was fine with it. Anyway, I was not in good shape and at one point I bolted for the bathroom thinking I was going to be sick, and he came in to check on me and make sure I was okay. I was so embarrassed because I’m not typically a sloppy mess when I go out. Following me to the bathroom to help is probably a basic courtesy, but it’s just not something most guys I’ve dated in the past would’ve done.
I truly cannot imagine my dog biting another dog, person, animal, whatever. Ever, under any circumstances. He has the absolute sweetest disposition. He melts to the ground when he sees certain dogs coming while we walk, which I’m told is just a sign of submission. I’d be more concerned with him getting “bullied” by other dogs.
He is about 30 lbs (too big to be small, but not big) and looks like an aussiedoodle (he’s definitely not but he sure is cute). Through volunteering at shelters, I learned that my city has one of the worst dog fighting problems in the country, and sometimes there will be alerts out for dog owners to be extra vigilant on walks or letting dogs out in yards unattended because the smaller, fluffier dogs are stolen for bait dogs. I always get nervous when I hear reports of that in or near where I live cause I feel like he’d be a prime target.
Yeah, I’m also pricing doggie daycares, and that might be how I go. It’s maybe $10 more but my dog would get to play with other dogs all day.
On the subject of dogs, has anyone used Wag!, the dog-walking service? When I got my dog a year ago, I had an arrangement with a neighbor that he’d walk my dog midday and I’d take his out at night. It worked well. But alas, he moved. I’d like to still have a walker for my dog, but don’t know how to find someone I trust inside my home and with my dog. Another neighbor walks dogs for Wag! in her spare time as a side hustle, and she made me feel reassured that they hire normal, responsible people (though she’s not someone who could walk my dog because we both have 9-5 schedules). Anyway, my dog has been fine home alone in the interim while I’m figuring out what to do next, but I still think it’d be nice for him to have a break and companionship midday.
I mean, some breeds do better in the cold than others. Like sled dog breeds are bred to withstand colder temperatures. But most aren’t. Mine’s a medium-sized dog. He doesn’t shed, so his hair grows longer and makes him a sponge with snow and rain — so I also like to keep him from getting wet. He doesn’t get cold as quickly as, say, the Italian greyhounds down the street, but he still shivers in the winter. Luckily he’s the most docile dog ever, and sits still for me while we fuss with his accessories. I can tell he doesn’t love his rain coat, though.
A guy I went on a few dates with earlier this year thought it was dumb that my dog has a jacket, and I’m sure he’s not the only one. He thought people need to “let dogs be dogs.” And it’s like, I’m generally on board with that, but it’s -20 out, and it’s stupid to assume that dogs don’t get cold. Especially cause you can, y’know, TELL when a dog is cold. You can TELL that something on the sidewalk (the salt, usually) is hurting his feet.
I think I get the side-eye from people for putting my dog in sweaters or jackets and booties in the winter, but it gets really freakin’ cold here and the salt for icy sidewalks hurts his paws. I figure if he has to have cold weather gear, he might as well by stylish and we might as well have a matching outfit. There are two Italian greyhounds down the street and because they’re such a skinny breed, they basically need sweaters as soon as it hits the 40s. Makes my day every time I see them.
I totally asked my sister for matching PJs for me and my dog for Christmas last year. Still mildly disappointed she didn’t deliver. One of the dog moms has a matching bathrobe with her dog. Hahaha. Anyway, I’d rather just get something off the registry, mostly unsure if it’s okay to hit a lower price point since I’m only invited to the tail end of the reception.
@alafair There’s no rush to say it. Five months in, I don’t think it’d be weird to do so, but it also hasn’t been so long that you haven’t said it aloud yet. I’ve only told two guys I love them. The first, I was younger, he was my first serious relationship, we said it after a couple months of dating but had been friends for a long while prior. Second guy, I think it took about eight or nine months to say it.
I think I may have mentioned on this thread that I’ve become friends with the women who adopted my dog’s siblings? Anyway, one is getting married tomorrow and she invited us to come by her reception for drinks/dancing. She’s been telling us this for months but I think we all thought, well she’s just being polite (or at least I did), so we didn’t solidify the plan until today. BG is coming with me and I’m excited to not be the ninth wheel of that group for once – ahaha. Marginally related, I’d like to get the bride + groom a gift since I’ll be going — what’s appropriate in this instance? I was going to find something on the registry and bring a card tomorrow.
@Ale Yeah, Neighbor is shady and the more glimpses I see into his real life (and not his “new year new me” life), I’m glad I’m not the one being treated like that, but I’ll also say, it’s a weird thing to know.
Also, this was particularly true of my first serious relationship, but I think it took me a couple years to stop being very aware of milestone dates (e.g., birthdays, anniversary, etc.) on the day every year. I actually cannot remember that ex’s b-day anymore, though, even though I would’ve spent maybe four total with him. I remember it was toward the end of May, but cannot recall the day. So if you bump into your ex, you can always act like you don’t remember if you don’t feel like wishing him a happy birthday.
Do people generally have ideas for what’s appropriate for early-days dating birthdays? Like I said, I want to do something fun with BG and we’d talked about indoor skydiving as a bday date, cupcakes are easy enough for when we nail down a date, but do I also need to get him a gift?
A couple of my friends (an old friend and her bf) were in town this weekend. It was so fun to see them, and I always like watching the two of them interact as a couple cause I think they have a lot of great relationship behaviors. Bumble Guy joined us for dinner and axe throwing last night and it was a great time. My friends said they really liked him, and I’m glad. His birthday was last week and I already told him I want to take him to an indoor skydiving place for his bday, but not sure when that will happen. But I really wanna do a birthday date with/for him, even if it’s a little late!
In Neighbor News, he didn’t close his blinds last night and his bed is right up against his window. My friend was in my bathroom, and called me in to show me something: A clear shot of Neighbor going at it with a woman who definitely isn’t his girlfriend. (She didn’t know it was the guy I’d had a fling with when she called me over, she just thought “Haha – close quarters city living.”) Annnd I finally feel like I dodged a bullet.
Yeah, when I lived in the burbs of a different state, my now-ex and I used to drive a little over an hour to see one another. Unless one of us was traveling or something, we saw each other without fail on weekends and when work schedules allowed, mid-week after work. Our first date was a marathon date, and I was so smitten with him after that I truly did not care that I was starting a relationship that wasn’t as convenient and I remember telling him, “I’d rather see you once/week than someone else every day.” And it was so true!
