Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

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  • in reply to: Struggling to eat hoping for some advice? #968418
    avataremsliza
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    This happens to me during depressive episodes. I don’t know if you have a past with mental health or if you’re currently struggling but definitely seek professional help.

    in reply to: am i overreacting??? #968357
    avataremsliza
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    hey hey thanks for the advice but we’ve already broken up. sure, the situation itself was small BUT, through it i realized his emotional immaturity, toxicity and emotional manipulation. A day later and im feeling so much better. Just hoping it doesn’t hit me anytime soon!!

    in reply to: Why does this stuff always happen to me?? #968313
    avataremsliza
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    I’m def not in any place to give advice in this area but! I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s kinda shitty of him to be speaking to his ex whilst having a girlfriend, though. I’d suggest cutting him off though. Talking to exes is a no no.

    in reply to: am i overreacting??? #968287
    avataremsliza
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    thank you !

    in reply to: am i overreacting??? #968280
    avataremsliza
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    hey i just wanted to ask for some very specific advice really quick.
    ive been on prozac for about 4 months now for depression and anxiety. if you’ve taken this you may have also experienced that nasty feeling of coming off of it at night.so i am aware that right now i might be chill with the breakup bc my meds remove a LOT of my anxiety and make me feel kinda numbish so, when i start coming off of it this evening does anyone have any coping mechanisms that work for them? since i’m quite new to the medication i have not figured any out yet.

    in reply to: am i overreacting??? #968278
    avataremsliza
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    thanks queen! love this community

    in reply to: am i overreacting??? #968274
    avataremsliza
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    BREAKING NEWS LADIES

    I broke up with him. I blocked him. Deleted him on socials, deleted his number, the whole nine yards. And after doing so, I giggled. That may sound sinister but, I’m free yall!!!!

    (also in the short convo we had he really just proved him emotional immaturity so that rlly helped me pull the plug.)

    in reply to: am i overreacting??? #968273
    avataremsliza
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    Nice hearing im not alone in the whole watching your parents be awful to each other situation.as a little girl/early teen id tell my mom that i wanted a boyfriend who did xyz. you know, things that were cute and charming. flowers and cute dates. she would always say things like “hmph no men are like that, dont get your hopes up.” it confused me because i saw my friend’s dads doing those things for their wives. I think as i have gotten older ive started to believe my mom and that’s unacceptable. just bc she’s settled for a man who treats her like shit doesnt mean i have to.

    in reply to: am i overreacting??? #968271
    avataremsliza
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    yeah im def starting to realize i’ve been taken advantage of… and the more i think about it, i really want to be single so that i can improve my mental health. Plus id be moving away from him and going to college next year anyways.

    in reply to: am i overreacting??? #968268
    avataremsliza
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    he’s 20. he also comes from a VERY different lifestyle than i do. he had way more experience than i did going into the relationship and that definitely made me feel even more insecure in the beginning. I’m just your normal, suburbs teenage girl and he’s a grown man who has been treated like an adult since he was a young boy.

    in reply to: am i overreacting??? #968267
    avataremsliza
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    hi hi

    so, I totally agree with you on that and I actually am seeing a therapist 🙂 I’m just a total mess!!

    I would say me allowing him to mistreat me is a combination of poor mental health andddd watching my dad mistreat my mom. I’ve never really seen a healthy relationship.

    in reply to: am i overreacting??? #968264
    avataremsliza
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    hi guys so I made an account. so, i reallyyy appreciate all you’ve had to say and honestly these thoughts have made me realize a lot about myself. What Kate said about rewarding him for his BS is so accurate and I have done that one too many times. And same with copa for saying that I’m not leaving because it’s scary. I don’t wanna be alone. For 2 years I’ve had someone and if I leave him I will be. BUT, the thought of being able to be happy by myself and growing as an individual without someone dampening my vibe sounds soooo refreshing. I knowwwww I have to do it and honestly, I want to. I’m just so scared. Oh and, bagge72 totally opened my eyes to what he’s actually doing when he “overshares.” that’s upsetting and shitty.

    oh and I’d like to add that I’m realizing that because he’s older than I am by quite a bit he may have realized that he could be toxic without me realizing that it was wrong. I’m not really sure how I’m supposed to be treated tbh.

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