Agree with Kate. He will probably spin you a line about how this relationship is dead in the water etc etc, they don’t even have sex anymore, lalala so you will sleep with him, thus giving him something extra and also a bit of power over said girlfriend.There are better men out there, disregard this charmer who likes to flirt to feed his ego while his poor GF has no idea what is going on. Or maybe she does, maybe he likes to torture her with how very irresistible he is to keep her in line. Whatever it is, he doesn’t sound like a person you want to trust with your emotions.

I don’t even like pics of me but this would bother me too.I understand wanting the view pics on travels over pics of people in the view, but it’s hardly unreasonable to want some nice pictures of both of you and your kids, in the moment. I’d just take every opportunity to hand your phone/camera to anyone suitable around and ask them to take a pic of you all together.So nobody has to set anything up. (Though it sounds like he is fine to do that when it is just him and kids.)If he reacts negatively to that, then ask him what on earth is going on.

Sounds like you have a lot going on and I agree with Kate’s advice there completely. Just came here to say I have often mistakenly called my partner by my ex’s name ( I loathe that ex ) and my partner almost invariably calls me by his sister’s name when she’s around.We both call each other by the names of our pets from time to time. None of this means anything, he isn’t hankering after his ex, you do have problems but I don’t think you need to worry about that one.

Ok. maybe i am not getting this straight, but my reading is (and I am having a shit day so may not have got this correct) your friend has set you up as a fwb with the person who is due to marry their sibling. This is really toxic. Unless I am somehow really misreading this you should disengage from all involved.What good could possibly come of this?

I tried turning this one round so that it was an older female colleague rather than a bloke. And that might be okay, (and that’s the circumstance I would have said “call on me for anything” ) I think you have overextended beyond what you actually meant. Try to disentangle yourself but also remember, do not tell people that they can turn to you for help if you are going to feel uncomfortable following through (and I would too, were I you, you need to nip this in the bud probably) But if you don’t mean it, don’t say it, especially to someone with suicidal ideation trouble. It’s definitely too much for you to deal with so find a way to detach without harming anyone.

I really hope your next round of IVF works out for you. I’m not in the US, so no idea how adoption works there, but just wanted to say that two of my close friends were adopted as children, one as a baby, one at (i think ) around 6-7 and they are so so very close to their parents.They are middle aged now and still some of the most bonded families i know.