He’s older enough to be able to dazzle you with things he has learned from dazzling probably a series of young women. 23 year old guys can be gauche, for sure, and I totally understand the attraction of someone with more experience of the world- but this man is totally inauthentic, it’s actually pretty easy to be fascinating if you have charm and nearly 30 years of experience to draw on, and predatory older men whose wives no longer give them the uncritical adoration they enjoy will seek it out from younger women, while enjoying all the perks of perkier youth. He is married, messing you about, and you will find that level of connection with someone else at some point. The first time you find someone you connect with so strongly it seems “meant” or unique, or like you have found your soulmate, but there will be many possible much better connections, just as deep and absorbing in your future. Don’t waste your time or tears.

Do you want to marry him? If you decide you do, then propose to him. We live in an equal age. (well, we don’t but we ought to). If this does not appeal, then its time to think about things. This is more important than a ring and a snapshot memory.

A basic rule for interacting with women out and about is don’t do anything you wouldn’t do if they were a man. Do you smile at and try to strike up conversations with random men you see? Basically, women going about their day are not a selection box of chocolates for you to try a nibble on.Being low level harassed by men while just existing in the world starts at about 14 for most of us and by the time we are older we are just fed up of it. But there are so many dating apps where women who are potentially interested exist. Many are free. Also just joining groups and clubs where people share interests with you is a good way to widen your social circle, – though again, don’t interact with any women there in a way you would not interact with a man.Get to know more people, they all have friends, and that’s a good place to start.

Half of the people he shares his past with will be female.He will have had relationships with some of them. He does not have to renounce all contact with people from his past because they are female and you are insecure. If you take a rational attitude and he still hides things, that’s when to worry. You need to do a lot of talking and work out where you are with this but it is entirely unreasonable to expect him to cut off all contact with any woman he may have known, or had relations with, prior to you.But if he is being shady and using these messages as a way to keep you insecure and therefore easily manipulated, then that’s a problem for sure.

Hope it all goes perfectly for you, and you land that job and love it.

Why on earth do you need her to leave? So he can pick a spurious fight with his live-in girlfriend, send her off sobbing to whatever friends and family she usually goes to when he pulls this shit, have his night or so with you, then graciously accept her apology for whatever the fight was supposedly about and allow her back to where she lives? Or he can just pick a time when she is going away for the weekend? If she isn’t there and you never meet her theres a reason for that. Why this antagonism towards this woman who has done zero to you,( and probably has absolutely no idea you exist), why had she “better not be there” in her own actual living place? If she is there and it turns out everything he has said is the truth, wouldn’t that be the best outcome from your point of view?