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Dear Wendy

Hazel

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  • in reply to: How to save face at this point? #1096860
    Hazel
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    best way to save face is to leave all of this way, way behind you. Do not engage, do not discuss, tell your interfering friend to lay off and that you no longer want to think about it. If you do still want to process it, see a therapist if that is at all available to you, if you can’t do that seek out free voluntary helplines near you. But do everything you can to cut links with your ex, and his GF, – you don’t need to save face with them, they are no longer a part of your life, there’s a whole interesting world of people out there who are not them. And they are seeing your face afresh.

    in reply to: My bf is a coward and disappointed me :( #1096792
    Hazel
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    I would not tackle any desperate person for property and would not expect anyone to aid me if I did. I would hope that someone would come to my aid if I was personally being attacked, and I am pretty confident that my partner would as I absolutely would for them- But I love my partner far too much to want them to risk injury or at worst case, death (nobody knows what arms might be involved, knives etc) over property. I’d have been holding back and holding them back too.The traditional roles thing is a bit shit, though, I don’t get why you are being okay about that.

    in reply to: My mums making my pregnancy 10x worse. #1096661
    Hazel
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    This doesn’t sound like fun for you at all. I am interested in what the argument was about though.These are strange times and I’ve had a few arguments I normally wouldn’t, with people I love, due to disagreeing really strongly about people’s decisions and how they affect others.If it was something like that you can probably eventually get through it- they will want to meet your baby once they are born I am sure- but if it is just the latest in a long line of abusive behaviour maybe the time has come to keep them at a strict distance.

    in reply to: Second chance #1096346
    Hazel
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    I’d just email the program manager, explain exactly what happened, say that you are now much better prepared, apologise sincerely for problems you may have caused re. short numbers in the team, etc etc, and ask for a second chance. The worst that can happen is that they’ll say no.If they do (and I hope they don’t) then ask them for recommendations of any other similar programmes where you can start anew. Good luck.

    in reply to: ex friends with benefits #1096345
    Hazel
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    He is a louse. His girlfriend will find this out for herself in good time I’m sure; if you try to tell her now this lying piece of nonsense will spin it as- you are crazy, he was scared to break it off with you, etc etc etc, probably claim you threatened suicide to blackmail him into staying in touch, —whatever he does, it will just lead to more heartbreak and unnecessary drama. Just move on and be happy you didn’t end up in an actual relationship with the creep.

    in reply to: It’s time for her to meet his parents #1095999
    Hazel
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    agree with Leslie. Also, don’t cover for him, with his parents, you are not the one who is doing this; just don’t; this is already making you sad and depressed, and covering for his shitty, shitty behaviour will only make you feel worse.What does he think he is; a king from the restoration period flaunting his new mistress? What a heel.

    Hazel
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    Get a new manager- it sounds like he is as controlling and disrespectful of you in your professional relationship (you never got to express yourself the way you wanted) as he is in your personal relationship. I think you will find someone out there who is a much better fit (but get a new manager, AND a new partner,- if you want a new partner- don’t tie the two up in that way again if you can help it).

    in reply to: Do I say yes or no? #1095011
    Hazel
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    If you yourself want to look after your niece one day a week, then do that, but arm yourself against possible manipulative tactics like him getting your niece to ask for this day or that day extra; for this or the other reason; because she will enjoy your kind attentive company more than his begrudged presence.Another thing to watch out for is his resentment if you and your niece become close.Hopefully you and his partner have a good relationship so together you can keep his childishness in check.Good luck whatever you decide.Sounds like the kid could do with a well meaning Aunt in her life.

    in reply to: Mental Health #1094834
    Hazel
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    sounds like one of those substances which are not recreational whatsoever. Probably do have some value in certain circumstances but being sold as a fun drug is not it.Nature has a lot of tricks and many of them are definitely not all ha ha hee hee.

    in reply to: Mental Health #1094628
    Hazel
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    BGM Spice maybe? A big problem in UK prison system. If I were a prison guard I’d rather the inmates had weed .

    in reply to: Moving away with girlfriend of 3 years #1094584
    Hazel
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    Let her move, see if she can find the life she wants somewhere else, and then judge whether you feel it is right for you before you contemplate joining her.Don’t feel pressured to upsticks and leave without something in place, that’s her dream and sounds like it very much isn’t yours.IF she found something perfect for both of you, you might feel differently but it sounds like she just wants to go- let her. If she doesn’t at least give it a go this’ll probably be a right thorn in the side later on.

    Hazel
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    LW would you please give us an update on this situation?

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