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Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Hazel

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  • Hazel
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    It’s annoying but I wouldn’t worry about it. My partner for some reason calls me by his sisters’ name if we are all together for more than 5 minutes, she lived with us for a while and it was chaos working out who he was talking to.But then I have also accidentally called him by our dog’s name when shouting him into the house for coffee.Unless he is mixing up your first names in bed or something, I’d just laugh it off if I were you.

    in reply to: How do you teach yourself a new skill? #982930
    Hazel
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    currently learning to weld for a huge project and I suck which is annoying, but I suck a bit less every day, so that’s good, – what helped me was finding someone better than me and shadowing them. is that at all possible for you? Obviously probably not possible IRL but could you hook up with someone skilled in the particular field for a few tutorials? Most creative fields contain generous people who will share and mentor others.

    in reply to: Messy Friendship? #982926
    Hazel
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    Merry Christmas, make your New Years’ resolution to plan and leave this relationship. There is a whole world of possibilities out there for you next year. A happy ending with this relationship is not one of them. It seems to be really hard for you to leave, but it is NOT impossible, and if you move on, I reckon it will be only a matter of weeks until you begin to feel much, much better. Even if it takes months, even if it seems intimidating and lonely and scary, the world is full of people who have moved on from this sort of shit, survived, gone on to find what makes them happy. You are still pretty young, be kind to yourself, give yourself a chance.Give yourself a chance at a happy life.

    in reply to: Mother in law buys gifts for partner ex #981833
    Hazel
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    why on earth do you care? Someone does something nice for someone else, unless you object to gifts because of some zero waste principle which you adhere to yourself, this is nothing to do with you,

    in reply to: Covid Support Thread #977939
    Hazel
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    just in case USA has missed this, in the Uk there is a new, apparently more infectious variant, which may either be less harmful or more harmful but is definitely more infectious. It seems likely this will happen with you too, anyway just stay safe, stay careful everyone.

    in reply to: Neighbors that are hypocrites #969825
    Hazel
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    Where is the nearest other place you can park? (I’m assuming you are US and I understand that different rules may apply from what I am used to-)- have you considered asking one of your nearby neighbours who really do enjoy your show if they would be happy for you to park outside their house? They’d probably be more than glad to. It’s best to get on with neighbours and much though I love a light show, if it was right next to me I’d see tolerating that with good grace as enough of a contribution.It’s probably lovely but it also probably flashes in their windows when they may not be in the mood, for whatever reason, maybe getting a very serious phone call, maybe having a headache,- it seems they don’t complain about your light show which is great, isn’t it? That’s be a real bone of contention. But you can just step back from this and I would if I were you.Hope all ends well.

    in reply to: Struggling to eat hoping for some advice? #969463
    Hazel
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    Absolutely do please seek out help. Eating disorders are one of the most serious things, you need and deserve help right now.

    in reply to: Don’t know what to do #968368
    Hazel
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    Pack his stuff up, give him a suitable time (after he finishes work) where he can collect it, and place it outside for him. There is zero point in speaking to him, he has already wasted enough of your time. Watch from behind a curtain and flick him the v’s if it makes you feel better, but don’t engage with him at all, there is no point.Also if he gave you covid as well as heartbreak, that’d be extra crap, we only need to see those who really care right now, and he plainly doesn’t. It really really sucks and I hope you find someone much better soon.

    in reply to: Christmas Decisions #964985
    Hazel
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    It sounds like you may be in the UK. It might be worth making your choices pragmatically by looking at the rates in different areas, travel distances (hence comfort stops) and making the safest decisions possible.I’m sure whichever family doesn’t get visited will understand and hopefully in the spring everything will change and they can be top of your visit list. OR- just stay home. The more people who are able to make that choice the better for everyone, and hopefully we will all get vaccinated soon, this isn’t forever, it’s probably just a matter of months now.

    in reply to: Should this hurt? #964745
    Hazel
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    If he was a really private person he’d hardly be posting pictures of his food and where he is I reckon.If he isn’t cheating, he’s making sure he doesn’t reduce his chances of future liaisons by keeping you out of the picture.Agree re the “hurt in the past” scenario being a useful excuse for not giving you what you might want or expect from a relationship.It sounds like it’s maybe time to tell him you need him to publicly acknowledge you and if he won’t,(and can’t give you a decent reason which he hasn’t yet) I’d consider moving on.

    in reply to: Break-up dilemma #964660
    Hazel
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    Glasgow is a very very friendly city– if it wasn’t for current restrictions you’d easily find lots of new friends. Having lived in Manchester, which does have its appeal but is a very different place, I’d say if you really like Glasgow, give it a shot for a while, if you can find shared accommodation with likeminded people so that gives you a start with slowly building a social circle, but I’d discount your ex right out of the equation. Things are so restricted right now though so I can absolutely see reasons returning to your previous support network may turn out to be your best bet.Good luck whatever you decide. You could always go back to Manchester with the thought of returning to Glasgow when the pandemic is more under control.

    in reply to: Friend advice? #964421
    Hazel
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    Hell no. You have no idea what she had going on. A friend of mine forgot my birthday and I was disconcerted a wee bit but turned out her life was being super weird in a way she wasn’t able at the time to share.Nobody (well, very close ones did, which was lovely) marked my birthday pretty much this year as it fell right after lockdown. They couldn’t even go to a card shop.Just do what you would normally do for her and forget the past, these have been odd times.Cherish friendships they are worth much more than tokens.

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