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Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

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  • in reply to: Covid Support Thread #964594
    Karebear1813
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    @Kate Fair enough!

    in reply to: Covid Support Thread #964590
    Karebear1813
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    I actually think Sanecia advise is beneficial, but of course, speaking with their PCP.

    Steroids absolutely do help with inflammation. I am on a long term steroid for my chronic illness that causes inflammation.

    but also ( looked it up on Google) Dexamethasone, a corticosteroid, is similar to a natural hormone produced by your adrenal glands. It often is used to replace this chemical when your body does not make enough of it. It relieves inflammation (swelling, heat, redness, and pain) and is used to treat certain forms of arthritis; skin, blood, kidney, eye, thyroid, and intestinal disorders (e.g., colitis); severe allergies; and asthma. Dexamethasone is also used to treat certain types of cancer.

    in reply to: Am I being unreasonable #964573
    Karebear1813
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    Yes you are wrong! You are wrong to assume he is being cheap because he wants to set a sensible budget for Christmas. That’s what smart people do. You are a grown adult. Grown people need to stop expecting gifts, esp. for Christmas. If you want to treat yourself, you have money to do it. Stop equating your relationship based on the fact he doesn’t spend as much as you like or makes attempts to “spontaneously treat” you with an outing verse the things he does do. If you want to go get ice-cream one night suggest it and request he pay. Worse case scenario is he can say No.

    in reply to: Friend advice? #964416
    Karebear1813
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    Intentionally forgetting your friends birthday because they forgot yours would be petty. You should call them up, make small talk and when they ask how are you doing you should mention something like “Oh I’m doing well, just turned another year old… I’m becoming an old fart” and see what they say. They could have genuinely forgot.

    in reply to: Should I leave my fiancé over a small(ish) issue? #962230
    Karebear1813
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    My husband and I don’t make a ton of money but if it wasn’t for him teaching me how to save I’d probably be living pay check to pay check too. Both of you should invest in time learning money management skills and budgeting skills. Both of you take responsibility in paying bills together and budgeting house hold essentials and if enough is left other give each other an allowance to spend and save for the big ticket items together. Both of you need to be learning the fundamentals of saving and growing your money. This is something you can grow together in.

    How can you call him immature if you aren’t any better off than he is and you are much older. Neither one of you are saving money.

    I refuse to let my husband not help manage our bills. God forbid something happen to me because he would be in the dark on what bills we have. All bills should be out on the table. You each need to know what debts you owe.

    in reply to: Should I leave my fiancé over a small(ish) issue? #962225
    Karebear1813
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    Based on what your wrote in, I would say your friends aren’t really listening nor given any solid advise. They just say the most convenient thing to say as if they would follow through with their own advise if they were in similar situations. What they probably should be saying is you guys should separate your finances until things got under control and the issue was addressed. Maybe both of you but esp. him should look into information that helps with managing one’s income. Look into what courses are available for him to take to learn how to manage his own money. He could be spending more because of stress factors or because he isn’t realistic and irresponsible. You both could take a budgeting course on how to mange each others finances before and after marriage. If saving and having money is important to you then you need to address that now, not after the I do’s. You both have to respect each other and have boundaries and limits when it comes to money. Sometimes having your own allowance helps when one over spends. My husband and I put anything over $5,000 a month (checking account) in our savings account and we can spend down to a certain point but if it gets below a certain point in the checking we might not be able to save for that month, which is not good if we cant save. We budget our groceries together and our bills. I think it would be good to take a martial class before getting married. Regarding cleanliness, well you aren’t specific but you both have to work together on chores and have to accept that one might not be as clean as the other but need to have some boundary of having a clean space to live together.

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