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August 25, 2019 at 7:01 pm in reply to: My 19 y/o son dropped out of college and now his only "goal" is to be waiter. #850948
@David. I think you are doing the right thing, taking it slow and not pressuring her faster than she is ready. If she’s holding down steady employment and paying her bills she might be moving at the pace she’s able to, right now. Trust her to figure out her own margins; nursing is a great field, but it tends to come with a lot of stress and access to drugs. While it would be great for her to contribute to a 401k and keep her insurance, she might need to work on herself before she goes back to that field.
Focus on her successful sobriety. If she’s healthy and able to pay her bills and that’s the most important thing, right now. In time, maybe she will return to nursing or use her degree to set herself on a different career path. It may not be the path you envisioned but 23 is pretty young.
If she hasn’t taken time off from school or work maybe she needs to wait tables for awhile in order to figure out a “sweet spot”. Consider how many people lose their battle with addiction every day, and just try to enjoy having her. She’s past the age where you can push her past embarrassment if it isn’t what she wants, anyway.
Congratulations, Veritek. Your emerald ring is gorgeous.
My only thought about your sister-in-law is that maybe they are spending more time and money than they realized, before, when it was discussed. If the day and venue are really important to you, could you have two weddings? Maybe a special ceremony/vow exchange somewhere convenient for his family, and then go on to have a second wedding with your side eight weeks before?
Sorry, Ange.April 22, 2019 at 4:25 pm in reply to: This whole Trump situation just gets worse and worse everyday #841692
@Ktfran- I can respect that point of view. I think it’s great to read articles. I just don’t think a lot of comment sections offer a whole lot of new ideas. The people I know who voted for Trump will likely vote for him again. I feel like I understand where they are coming from. Pundits like Ramesh Ponnuru and Michael Moore may influence comments but I think reading comment sections after articles often give a disproportionate view of what most Americans and others actually believe. It’s like listening to a classroom discussion; the loudest voices tend to lead the discourse but that doesn’t mean they have the most interesting or intelligent ideas on the topic. They just happened to be there and typed out their opinion on something they often think they understand better than others whether they actually do or not.
I’ve had enough people in real life who want to debate me on their talking points that I usually find the discussions disingenuous and usually mainly for their own personal benefit. Maybe it’s a personal flaw but I find it demoralizing to constantly focus on the differences between myself and others. I’m more interested in building myself up than breaking down, right now.April 22, 2019 at 2:41 pm in reply to: This whole Trump situation just gets worse and worse everyday #841681
I try to limit the comments I read. It’s devastating to read about what happened in Sri-lanka over Easter. If I want to ponder depressing tragedies it might as well be over true hardship and not made-up buffoonery coming out of the white house.
I think most anonymous comments online are just commercials created by people who have no better way to spend their time. There are unhappy people all over the world but people who have the time and means to spew non-sense are usually not the people whose opinions are the most noteworthy. The real leaders, educators, workers, and the happiest among us probably aren’t spending copious amounts of time worrying about Sarah Sanders or the other white house pundits making bank or letting them affect their lives, choices, or willingness to compromise. I really hope the next elected officials are more than spin doctors, cooler heads prevail, and the internet comments continue to catalogue the more off among us for some security. I continue to value the comments here more than just about anywhere online. Best way to take action politically still involves action and not paying mind to dodo-heads and their outposts.March 29, 2019 at 9:35 am in reply to: This whole Trump situation just gets worse and worse everyday #839207
sorry to botherMarch 29, 2019 at 9:27 am in reply to: This whole Trump situation just gets worse and worse everyday #839206
@LisforLeslie- It is infuriating. But I’ll take my ranting somewhere else.March 25, 2019 at 10:19 pm in reply to: This whole Trump situation just gets worse and worse everyday #838854
Anybody else feeling relieved the Mueller investigation is finally done? I think Stone, Flynn, Manifort, and the rest at least were exposed and I’m glad the U.S. may not have to get into impeachment. I honestly think with the Moscow hotel, Trump’s family would have tried to influence politics with Russia even more than they did if there hadn’t been an investigation. I’m still depressed about the push-back in abortion laws and LGBT rights will undoubtedly undergo with all the judicial appointments in the next few decades but that can’t undo Roe V Wade or Obergefell v. Hodges even if discrimination will likely be permitted. It’s sad to read about the suicides around Parkland and Sandy Hook.
But it feels good that even with a republican congress there ultimately was oversight. Less news about Syria is probably the best we could hope to read. Can’t undo the diplomacy damage but money still means something.March 1, 2019 at 10:39 pm in reply to: Guy friend confessed his feelings hours after my breakup #834213
“A backhanded compliment is a remark which seems to be an insult but could also be understood as a compliment. A backhanded compliment is also a remark which seems to be a compliment but could also be understood as an insult.”
@Themiddleway- Can you please explain to me how making a general statement intended to express vague disapproval was intended to be received by the general public? Was there a specific reason you included your disapproval when paying BGM a compliment?
How was coupling criticism to a compliment not qualification to label the comment as backhanded as defined in the Collins dictionary?
I actually really liked the rest of your post so the negativity really threw me off.
To me it seems to clearly indicate disapproval or dismay towards the very forums you chose to comment on. If you’ve been a loyal lurker, perhaps you’ve come across our host’s requests that commenters don’t insult the site. Could you clarify why it was important for you to include that comment?March 1, 2019 at 7:26 pm in reply to: Guy friend confessed his feelings hours after my breakup #834205
I guess I saw a crone instead of a maiden. I interpreted the phrase “one of the few reasons” as emphasizing that there were “few” reasons to “still” lurk. But I may have linked your comment to the emotional temperature of a different thread active at the time. In the future, if I read ambiguity, I’ll seek clarification of tone, first. Sorry for the mistake.March 1, 2019 at 9:51 am in reply to: Guy friend confessed his feelings hours after my breakup #834155
It came off as a back-handed to me.March 1, 2019 at 8:04 am in reply to: Guy friend confessed his feelings hours after my breakup #834140
“Bittergaymark is one of the few reasons I still lurk this site.”
@Themiddleway, this line comes across as insulting the entire site.
The creator of this site has made forums open to the comments in the general public. If you haven’t or generally don’t enjoy the content, comments, or advice, feel free to keep that thought to yourself when you participate on it.
Many people do like the space. It is an unnecessary criticism and it undermines the point you were trying to make about violating other people’s boundaries in an opportunistic window.