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@shakeourtree I was just waiting and waiting too haha. Glad you worked up the nerve, I’m not sure I could!
So he ended missing his flight and cancelling his work travel this week so we are grabbing dinner tonight before I head to Miami for a long weekend. Glad to be able to see him before I go, should be fun! Trying not to overthink things.
@Kare glad everything came back with good news!
And actually yeah I would realistically go with Kare’s approach…exp since it’s only been 2 dates.
AP – Brunch, then Art Institute to see the new Van Gogh exhibit, then a bar to watch the game with his friends, then my place to listen to music until like 1 am. Really long date! I am just perplexed how he didn’t kiss me…moment was there like 5 times. I think he’s a really sweet nerdy guy who is nervous with me. With his work trips and my Miami trip we can’t hang out until next Friday at the soonest. Just feel like everything is fantastic but he could kiss me and it could be…zip. Zilch. So I kind of just need to get there to know where I am at. But yeah texting everyday and pretty sure he’s super into me.
Also I obv changed my sn a bit, too many people outside of here know my but my original screen name.
@veritek33 Piling on to say I agree, no need to be the chill chick who can hang out at the drop of the hat. I am big on formal plans even if it’s only let hang out during the day on Sunday and time and place are confirmed the day before. It’s just respectful of each other’s time. Most guys figure out that if you don’t book me like a week in advance I am likely to have plans because I like to have a full life. I think he might be a great guy but yeah, just let things go for now and see if it makes sense when timing is better. No sense in starting things off on a frustrated foot (that made more sense in my head).
@Cleopatra_30 CONGRATS! So awesome 🙂
@veritek33 Doing a late brunch tomorrow for date #2 and then going from there. My friend told me he texted her fiance (who is his friend) to see if they are free tomorrow night to watch the final 4 as he knows I’m not a huge sports fan so he figured getting group together would be more fun. He hasn’t asked me about that so not sure if that’s a go…but that will be another like 6 hour date if so haha. Just got two cute tops to wear so feeling nervous/excited.
@shakeourtree No tips but just a comment that I tend to be the outgoing one and I think sometimes it’s nice to have that balance in a relationship. Also he may warm up more as time passes. I wish more shy nerdy guys liked me!
Also there’s no reason to be friends with an ex useless you really want to be. Meaning, they add value to your life as a friend after the break up. I think that that tends to be the exception rather than the rule…as I personally have found there tends to be residual feelings for at least one person (in this case, maybe him?). Being friendly if/when you do run into each other: absolutely. But no need to force a friendship if you have moved on. I’m sure you have plenty of friends!
@Mylaray I literally said “holy shit” out loud! I was not expecting that turn of events. Thank god you found out sooner rather than later!
I’m weird about giving out last names to strangers as I don’t want them to look me up on LinkedIn and know where I work/be able to stalk me if things go awry. I wish there was a better way to vet people!
@Cleopatra_30 I just read that link…OMG. I hate that people out there are that stupid. As someone who tried to “cool girl” it through my last relationship I ended up with someone who didn’t want the things I wanted ultimately. I’m looking for someone who I can be totally myself with and vice versa. It’s not that complicated.
@veritek33 How is your dad doing? I’m glad you were able to still spend the holiday with him.
I was supposed to have date #2 last night but he cancelled because of too much work and an early flight this morning (I ended up having to work late last night too so it worked out). I was pretty bummed, but we’ve rescheduled for Saturday. I’m already mentally like “ok, after that we probably have to do next Monday since he flies out Tuesday and isn’t back till Thursday and I fly out Thursday and am not back till the following Monday.” I shouldn’t be planning more than one date ahead. He’s just so…enthused.
@Moneypenny I’ve totally had the feels-like-an-interview phone call before a date! Some people are just awkward/shy. I’d at ;east give it an in person if you think there’s a chance.
So I went on a really really good date on Friday. It’s the first one after my breakup and I shouldn’t be excited but…just so good. Talked for 6 hours straight and just felt like “why haven’t I known you before now?” We are going out again tonight. I am definitely trying not to get my hopes up especially because I’m still a bit fragile. It helps a lot that it’s a childhood/good friend of my friend’s fiance who is amazing. And he’s just incredibly nice and we have a lot in common. If nothing else it makes me SO HAPPY I ended things with my ex. Even if this doesn’t work out, there are better things out there.
@veritek Omg that is really sweet, pretty sure I blushed just reading it haha 🙂
Yeah if he were buying you a tv that would be much different…in this case I think it’s not weird at all and nice of him to offer to you first. And I’m sure you are right he’ll appreciate having it at your place to have a nicer one there to watch.
I was annoyed when my ex left his older (but still decent, and flat) screen tv when he moved out. He left everything…every dish, every piece of furniture we bought, and only took like clothes, video games, and books. He made it clear he’d throw the tv away if I didn’t want it and so I was like…you know what? I like having two tvs. So I kept it and I’m glad I did.
I have a date on Friday and it’s the first one since the terrible awful horrible break up. It’s too soon, and I KNOW it’s too soon. It’s a friend of a friend who I met a few weeks ago and told him to ask me out again when some time had passed. Never had a guy wait a full month to take me to dinner before. In any case he’s a really nice guy and I figure worst case scenario I go and it’s boring/we don’t click. Still feeling nervous.
Hey, good luck with performing! I am just now getting back into it after giving it up for awhile for a corporate life. Also, therapy is amazing. No shame in going back. I’ve stopped and started at different points in my life.