There could be a million reasons why you didn’t get a plus one. Plenty of people don’t add plus ones unless you’re married or in a longer term commitment.

1. I’d do some digging to see if other non-married folks have plus ones, not just you. But don’t be mean about it. It could easily come up in some kind of conversation.

1a. If it’s across the board for everyone, go. Have fun. Your boyfriend can still go. He’s an adult. He can find something to do during the ceremony and reception if you want to make a trip out of it. Or go solo.

2. If it’s literally just only you who didn’t get a plus one, you can decline and then reassess your friendship. Or whatever feels right to you.

Whichever it is, don’t make a stink about it.

Yes. Give it a go. Flirt a little and ask him to do something, or make it known you’re interested.

“The hints I gave him: essentially the insurance stuff. I told him I was considering taking a retirement insurance and told him maybe you can help me on it, do the follow up. But he never did. Also I look at him a lot haha… and once I complimented him on his weight loss, I told him he was looking good.”

These are not hints. These are normal things people do and say. I compliment people all the time, males and females.

Wow. Agree with others in that you’re being completely unreasonable. He said hello to a neighbor he once had a crush on and now he’s never allowed to speak to her again?

There’s not enough information to know whether you have reason to be concerned or if you’re really that insecure. Like, are you asking an about each woman and his past relationship and he’s being honest? Or does he bring this stuff up out of the blue to cause you worry?

Regardless, I think you should break up. This is a toxic relationship no matter how you look at it. Before you get into another relationship you need to do some work on yourself.

What Kate and Anonymousse said.

Look, there’s likely a reason your cheating. There’s probably something missing from your relationship and you seeked it elsewhere. For me, it was chemistry. I never wanted to have sex with my ex-fiance. For a while I thought it was fine. It wasn’t. It wasn’t until we were engaged that I realized this couldn’t go on forever.

Do yourselves both a favor and call it off. Getting married would be a huge mistake. He deserves better.

Honestly, you can keep seeing this other guy if you want, but I think it’s a bandaid and won’t last. You’d be better cooling off for a bit and doing some self reflection of why you let this happen. Either on your own but a therapist would be more helpful.

Been there. I was engaged to a pretty perfect guy. I loved him. I loved his family. We got along great. He proposed. I said yes. Then I realized I made a huge mistake and kind of went off the rails. I had an emotional affair that probably started before he proposed. I started seeing a therapist and I postponed the wedding. I finally realized I couldn’t do it and finally, a week before my cousin’s wedding for which we needed to travel for, I called it off. We were eating dinner and I told him I couldn’t do it. This was 15 years ago, so I don’t remember exactly what I said. I did hand him my beautiful ring back.

I moved out and in with a friend.

I’d say rip the bandaid and do it. You actually don’t need to tell him about the cheating if you don’t want to. I didn’t. He probably knew, but we never discussed it. Just tell him what feels right.

I’m now married to another great guy. I love him so much, and vice versa. Everything has always been pretty easy and natural and we have mutual respect, friendship and chemistry. I feel like I hit the jackpot.