Report back on the solo travel! I’m interested as well, although my first foray might be a weekend beach trip where I sit in a covered lounge chair and read. And maybe get a massage.

Have so much fun!! We were in Ireland almost a couple years ago. There was this fabulous old library near St. Pat’s that was pretty cool to see. I’ll try to find the name. We also went to this super cool museum that ancient writings and drawings. A lot of stuff from Asia and also extremely early bibles. Even if you aren’t religious, it’s pretty cool to see all these old works.

I haven’t been to London.

We’ll be in Italy next month. We’re taking my niece. It’s her high school grad present. We’ll be in Rome, Florence, Sorrento (Pompeii, Capri and Positano), and Bari. Will happily take any suggestions too!!

If you don’t like it, you can choose not to date him. What you don’t get to do is dictate how he and his ex handle their post-separation/divorce arrangement. It doesn’t matter if others think it’s weird.

I mean, you could tell him you’d like to have dinner with him. Gage his interest in that and if he’s willing, he might be worth dating. I’d not, I’d prob cut my losses and date someone else.

Everything Kate said.

No need to feel stupid. Most of us have been in similar situations. I know I have. You learn and move on. Don’t let this hiccup get you down. You got relatively fast. You’re doing good.

This entire thing is weird. The ex reached out, told you how horrible he was, you broke up with him and now she’s back together with him?!? All the while, he’s still trying to contact you? Does this dude have a magic penis? A billionaire? I dunno?

Back far, far away from this dumpster fire of a mess. There are easier relationships to be had.

I do get feeling sad. And as a people pleaser/peacemaker myself, I do get not wanting to hurt others feelings. I learned, far later in life than I should, that it’s not always my job to make others feel better (especially people who don’t deserve it). All I can do is my best and honor my own feelings/comfort level. I relapse. A lot.

You trusted your gut and acted on that. That’s better than most!! With some distance and time, it will get easier. Distance (as in no contact) is key.

If he’s done this three times already, absolutely ignore. I think my initial assessment was the correct one with this new information. His other contact attempts didn’t work so he’s trying this out. None of us knows what he wants or is up to, but for your own sanity, it might be best to ignore, block and move on. Even if he is genuinely sorry, you don’t need to respond.

He can’t give you closure. Only you can give yourself closure.

And you’re right Copa, people can change. I should have added “people don’t change that fast, it takes work” when I wrote that.