Lianne
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Fair points, Kate. Just…don’t assume he’s just confused. Assume he’s doing all of these fucked up things intentionally. Stay alert and vigilant.
I actually think if anyone is making you feel uncomfortable at work, it’s grounds for reporting to HR. If I were you, I would just start documenting any incidents like this. It can’t hurt. He is dangerous and could be baiting you to build his own case. I don’t trust this guy. At all.
I am sorry you had to go through yet another manipulation by your psychopathic ex boyfriend, Ale. And he IS a psychopath for continually messing with your mind and your heart. You deserve better and need to block him on all forms of contact. And I do think you should look for a new job, even if it is not necessarily better for your career (shouldn’t be a step down though!). This is a toxic environment for you. He’s taunting you. You can also go to HR, but that’s up to you.
Fair enough guys. Perhaps I misread her tone. I just thought it was too much of a blanket statement.
@Dre, that’s not what I said. You made a blanket statement, that I didn’t think was fair.
Kate, I wanted those Ann Taylor shoes but they don’t have my size. BUT looks like they have a 50% off sale today!
Yeah I think there is a big difference in dating a guy who was previously married (NBD) and one who has kids with someone else (BD). Not only will the kids come first, as they should, he will be forever tied to the mother of his kids.
Thanks, RR!
Hey guys…I am back at work and on a computer again so here I am butting in 🙂
I’ve only ready the last few pages. Dre, one other thing to consider is that he said he’s deleting Tinder, which still has the stigma of being a hook-up app…perhaps he wanted to make it clear he’s not looking to hook up. My advice to you is to STOP OVERANALYZING and perhaps don’t text so much between dates in the beginning. If he’s not texting to make a plan – or you’re not, then why bother with the communication? Also, text/email confuses tone, so you’re sitting here overanalyzing – as we all are – why he said that and what it means and is it a red flag. If you want to go out with him again, just do it.
I just think it’s terrible to make generalized comments about any group – similar to what I was saying regarding religion last week. Sure, some people within certain groups behave a certain way, but that doesn’t mean the whole group should be vilified. And obviously, if your FWB is spending as much time with you as he is (I still think of you two as dating 🙂 ), he should know better than to make or perpetuate comments like that.
Is having to split your meal on a first date really a deal breaker these days? Or were there other issues? I mean, I am with you…I usually liked to be treated on the first date if the guy did the asking, but I don’t think I would never go out with someone again if we split the meal.
But yeah, if you all are going to take breaks from dating, take breaks from dating!!!! 🙂
I was being general, but it’s something you should definitely explore when you’re looking inward. Like you said, you’re dealing with “a mom with dementia who is verbally abusive to me and dammit, sometimes my eyes just start leaking when life is overwhelming and whoever is in the way gets to deal with it!” Perhaps the idea of having someone there to help you deal with it emotionally is appealing? I am not saying that’s the case, I am not you and only know what you share via the internet. But I think it’s worth exploring yourself…
