I just checked the site. Yes, divorced is an option to choose.

I was really interested in his profession and his phd studies, which we discussed on the date. I wanted to learn more about it, so I looked up his thesis afterward. His thesis was dedicated to his wife. It was published 4 years ago so, could be they’re no longer together. But I have no idea.

His dating profile just said Relationship Status: Single ; Longest Relationship: Over 3 years

Ohhhh man @Moneypenny I know precisely how you feel. It’s frustrating isn’t it. Like you said, you “just want something to work out”.

I was feeling frustrated earlier today (still am actually) because I thought I matched with someone who had great potential and I was really interested to meet him. The first day we matched, we texted back and forth a lot, chatting, asking questions, seemed like we had a lot in common. Second day, I hardly hear from him. Today, not at all.

Sooooo whatever. Can’t be too disappointed since I never even met the dude but still kind sucks when you just want to be pursued and you just to “get off the hamster wheel” like you say.

Fuuuuuck. Ok I’m done bitching now. Off to work, and then to get a bottle of wine for chill night with my girlfriends.

err… that should say Words don’t mean shit, BUT at least I thought everything was good.

I tried e-harmony a few years ago and thought it was awful. I only got 2 or 3 matches, even though I really did try to expand my search criteria.

No, it baffles me that they can’t be honest about it. If you’re just looking to hook up there’s nothing wrong with that, but what’s the point in lying or playing games?

He’s the one who initially asked me what I’m looking for (i.e. do I want a relationship, marriage, children, etc). So I followed his lead and I said yes I’m looking for those things, and he said that’s what he’s looking for as well.

Did I expect him to be my future husband because he said that? Of course not, but I did expect him to at least treat me with respect. If he’s not feeling it, why lie about it? Why be disrespectful and treat somebody like a side option?

Like I said, clearly I must be naive.