sobriquet

Yeah, I honestly have no idea where I’d be without DW. As frustrating as it’s been at times, this is the reason I left my ex so quickly. It’s the reason I got over him so quickly and was able to meet the man I’m going to spend the rest of my life with. Processing domestic violence… without this community… I don’t have any idea what would have happened. I might have gone back to him.

I was thinking about that this morning (and I am now drunk, so I apologize), but I was thinking about all the details I left out when writing about the assault. Details like previous violence, current contact… I was in major denial. I finally got around to reading ‘The Gift of Fear’ and the chapter on DV- holy hell- there’s a list of 30 signs that could indicate abuse… and my ex had 15 of them. Christ. It was eye opening.

Anyway, I’m wine drunk and rambling, but I wish I could give everyone who helped me process that really shitty thing I went through a big hug. And I am not a hugger, so that is a big deal! But yeah, big thanks. As happy as I am now, this community actually knows what I went through to an extent, as it was unfolding, and I’ll stick around as long as it’s here 🙂