Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

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  • in reply to: What exactly is wrong about this story from my childhood? #821789
    avatarSpaceySteph
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    I think I like it more because I’m a star wars fan and not because I’m a Family Guy fan. But when the Griswolds are in the middle of the battle and they’re like “roll em up!” my husband and I die laughing every time.

    in reply to: What exactly is wrong about this story from my childhood? #821786
    avatarSpaceySteph
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    I’m the only foul-talking nut allowed near my child!

    And Family Guy is definitely immature and stupid. My husband’s roommate (before we were married) watched it a lot and so I saw bits and pieces. I remember one episode that was all about poop and I really REALLY hate adult bathroom humor more than like any other kind. Not a fan. Except for the Star Wars spoof, that thing is funny as hell.

    in reply to: How To Negotiate Successfully #815173
    avatarSpaceySteph
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    Sounds like he is smart for not wanting to stepparent a perpetual screaming match. What are you doing to help your son with his behavioral problems? Or are you too focused on your love life to be a parent?

    Aside from that, this marriage isn’t a negotiation. There is no compromise to seek between “I want to get married” and “I don’t want to get married.” Or I guess there is, and its living together without any formal commitment which is making you miserable. Break up, move out, take care of yourself and your son, and when you do get married, do it to someone who really WANTS to marry you (and you them), not someone who you need to negotiate into it.

    All I see is magical, wishful thinking– marriage will fix it; moving in together will fix it; moving to the other side of the world will fix it. No. Its broken and it won’t just magically get fixed.

    in reply to: Dealing with 'fake' Christmas Presents #813505
    avatarSpaceySteph
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    Obviously OP wrote in so they could trash talk their SIL and then flounce off about how they can do whatever they want. Isn’t that why you write in to advice columns?

    avatarSpaceySteph
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    @Northern Star yes these parents are a mess. If my parents had found out my sister (who was 2 years behind me and took all the same classes with all the same teachers) was using my old tests to study and they were anywhere close to the new tests, they probably would have told the school themselves. That may be why my parents raised 3 rule-abiding goody-two-shoes kids. But on the bright side they’re probably never going to have to bail any of us out of jail.

    avatarSpaceySteph
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    You are assuming there’s hundreds of women who got impregnated by one of two brothers, but aren’t sure which, and one brother is dead and the other is a drug addict?
    Ok. And I’ve got a sandbox in florida to sell you.

    in reply to: Dealing with 'fake' Christmas Presents #813151
    avatarSpaceySteph
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    Also maybe time to exercise more parental control over what she watches on you tube if she’s getting brainwashed about branding and spotting fakes at age 4.

    in reply to: Dealing with 'fake' Christmas Presents #813150
    avatarSpaceySteph
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    There’s a teaching moment here for the kid about how its the thought that counts and that sometimes you don’t get exactly what you ask for but should be grateful for what you do have. And maybe also a teaching moment about respecting the gift-givers feelings by not calling out the gift.

    Not surprising that the kid hasn’t learned that, since clearly the parent missed that lesson as well.

    And yeah as others have stated, there can’t be that much difference between cheap plastic crap and cheaper plastic crap. Its gonna end up forgotten in a landfill when the next new hot toy comes out, anyways.

    avatarSpaceySteph
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    Ok wc, whatever you say. If you honestly believe that seeing the tests and knowing how close they are to the real one doesn’t change her study habits then you are as dumb as the OP.

    My moral compass is this: if I would be afraid to tell someone in a position of authority that I did X thing, then it is not morally right, even if it is technically legal and/or socially acceptable. OP you are obviously (and for good reason) afraid to tell someone in a position of authority about this, so you must know that it is not morally right even if is technically allowed. You can take the high road and stop cheating any time. Sooner or later, the things you are not learning from this class will catch up with you… next year, college, your first job, whatever.

    (Also if you think this class is dumb and you’ll never use it, well maybe you’re right. But learning how to be a good, honest person is definitely a life skill that will come back again and again. Not everything you are supposed to learn comes from a textbook..)

    avatarSpaceySteph
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    Yup its definitely about character. The first time was innocent but after that it was cheating. You should have a) told the teacher and b) stopped looking at your brother’s tests.
    It also doesn’t matter that a third of the class has access to similar material and is using it. It’s about you and your character. The way you get your friend to stop calling you a cheater is to stop cheating.

    Also, how dumb are you if you made a pact with your friend not to tell anyone it was the same test and then…told people anyway? You put yourself in this situation twice, first when you cheated and second when you told.

    Idk that I would tell the school, because they can be weird about cheating with zero tolerance overeaction. It would have been a no-brainer to tell after the first time, but now that you’ve kept doing it it could be bad. So just… stop doing it.

    in reply to: I can't make big decisions – how do I know he's "the one"? #811230
    avatarSpaceySteph
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    Yeah I agree the bf moving would likely be a bad decision. At that age he might own a home, have many years of service in a career and it would make the OP seem like a petulant child if she demanded he moved to her to prove his love or some romcom BS.

    He might have some biological clock ticking and is rushing it but it seems pretty early to make that kind of commitment. I think if you want to continue this relationship, you should make some commitments but not just abandon your job and home to move. (But also if its been rocky already, why not look elsewhere, like in your own city and age bracket?)

    Can you commit to spending more days in a row together (at home or on a trip) so you can see how compatible you are when its not a quick tryst? Or spend some more weekends in his city so you can learn the city, make friends, scope it out. Since its only 2 hours away, you have an awesome opportunity to ease your way into the city vs jumping straight in? And if that all goes well, maybe in a few months if you think you might like to continue the relationship you start job hunting and see if you can find something you like in the area, a job you’d like even if you weren’t moving for a guy.

    in reply to: Boyfriend works full time, doesn’t do ANY housework at all #810233
    avatarSpaceySteph
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    For the record, trafficking happens into the US as well, I wasn’t excluding us– in fact I’d put us as one of those countries where poor foreign women are likely to be disbelieved and let down by the system.

    Anyways, its hard to tell what is going on. He could be a regular male chauvanist. He could have brought a woman from another country specifically to hold the power. If it doesn’t apply she can move on, but this feels like that season of 90 day fiance with the old white dude and the 20 year old filipino girl… I wanted to shake her and be like “no, go home, save yourself!”

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